We live in untenable times. Many of us have lost our homes, our jobs and in the worst cases, to date over 176,000 of us in the USA have
lost our lives to a world-wide pandemic. Here in the USA, we have 5,713,776 confirmed cases of COVID-19, which include over 48,000 new cases today 8/22/20 alone. The USA leads the world in the number of COVID-19 cases and deaths related to it. Worldwide, there have been nearly 23 million confirmed cases, and almost 800,000 deaths. Yes, there have been 14,715,412 recoveries worldwide.
People argue the technical reasons for these deaths, saying they are from other causes which are also present, or even telling others not to call it a world-wide pandemic, or “promote fear” by reporting on the numbers, as if by denying the deathwave that has crossed our country will stop its march, or to whatever name we change this killer virus. Denying reality does not change it.
Denial of climate change and lobal warming also does not stop its reality. The wildfire season has now hit our western shores and spreading inland, destroying forests, the lungs of our planet, while simultaneously compromising our own lungs and lives. The denial of climate change and global warming do not reflect the reality we are living in, with megastorms, hurricanes and tornados, and heat waves in recording breaking numbers. It would be supposed reasons to sink into despair, if it were not for one thing.
Despair will not lift any of us out of the situations in which we are finding ourselves these days. No one will solve any situation through despair. We know this. To dwell on our present situation as if that is all there is and ever will be, is to decide to stay stuck exactly where you are finding yourself now. Concentrating on self-deflating feelings are the bucket of cement that will ensure that nothing changes. People these days are so into not denying their feelings that they make the common mistake of recognizing and validating their feelings, with thinking they need to stay with these feelings because that is how they are feeling. As long as we buy this lie, we will not heal.
If personal safety is an issue, CALL someone. With staying home, abusive situations can escalate. No one has a right to harm you.
What are the signs we need to watch out for?
- The other person always criticizing you.
- The other person always telling you what to do.
- Having to answer to the other person.
- Having to keep to the time schedule of the other person.
- Always having to ask for permission to think, say or do anything.
- Having the other person always manipulating you.
- We all have the God-given right to life. We all have the right to live our lives the best way we see fit. We do not need to live our lives under someone’s thumb.
We do not need to live our lives in debilitating fear, obligation and guilt of someone else injuring ourselves or themselves in some way.
There are suicide prevention hotlines. There are abuse hotlines. There are mental health providers.
National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 800-273-8255
National Domestic Abuse Hotline: 800-799-7233
Rape Abuse Incest National Network (RAINN): 800-656-4673
National Sexual Violence Resource Center: http://www.nsvrc.org
Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 800-422-4453 http://www.childhelphotline.org
US Department of Health and Human Services: 800-994-9662 http://www.womenshealth.gov/relationships-and-safety/get-help
You and I, unless we are specially trained with degrees in these mental health fields, are not trained to deal with these real life and death matters. Yes, we care about the people in our lives. We serve no one when we shut ourselves down along with the manipulating and/or mentally sick person. That is not helping.
What will lift us out of despair?
1. Acknowledge your feelings. Feelings are not right or wrong, they just are.
2. Decide to change your feelings from those of despair, depression, helplessness or any other dysfunctional negative feelings that is binding you into fear and immobilization.
3. Realize that deciding not to stay stuck with despair, depression, helplessness or any other dysfunctional negative feeling does not invalidate the feelings, nor you.
4. Make a conscious choice as to what feeling you want to have, the next lighter feeling in freedom which you can think.
5. Focus only on the feeling you are planning to achieve. Notice I did not say “trying” to achieve. The words “trying” is an open door to failure. It is a way out for you to be able to say, “At least I tried.” Do not “try” to do anything. DO IT. Realize that you can be happy, right where you are, in a line waiting for food, speaking with others in life-affirming statements on the streets, which bring about other possibilities and opportunities not yet realized.
6. Organize your thoughts, words and actions. Be the change you wish to see in the world around you. By encouraging others in positive ways, you encourage yourself. As long as you are living, breathing and moving, you have the ability to change despair into functional conversations with positive plans to help yourself and others. Make sure you use your voice to VOTE. No one can take away your human rights to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.
7. Know that you are not alone. While resposible people remain wearing masks and social distancing, we can reach out by cell phones and social media, zoom, Skype and many other current ways to build each other up, support noble ideas for the common good of all people; and change ignorance into intelligence. Where there is darkness, shine your light of a smile, encouraging words to yourself and your family and friends, and be the Light on the hill for all to see by.
I only chose 7 suggestions out of a thousand I could mention. Perhaps one of these triggers another thought, which then brings you to an even better thought. Go with the next highest vibration of thought to lift you out of despair.
It all begins with with a DECISION to feel better. These times are tough, but they are not the end. You are stronger than you realize. We grow in character when we face tough times.
I used to pray for patience, a lot, until I realized one day that by praying for patience, I was inviting in adversity, so I could practice my patience! That is when I DECIDED to claim and fully realize, that I had all the patience I needed. It worked! I simply needed to act on that realization in order to move forward and create abundance of all good things in my life, compared to only witnessing the adversity.
We can re-build our lives. We cannot bring back those who have lost their lives, of course, but we can take the necessary next steps forward in our healing process. Now is not forever. There is so much we can do to help ourselves, and others, in this time of uncertainty.
Choose only thoughts, words and actions based on LOVE and LIGHT. All else harms you and the whole of humanity.
Namaste