What you focus on grows. What are your views on self esteem, personality perception, body image, mental stability? Do you have any repeating issues with relationships, handling money, or religion or spirituality conflicts? Before we can change in any area, we need to become aware of our patterns, and what makes us tick. Some of us do not want to change. We get used to our dysfunction, in a comfortable but negative way. There is no judgment here. That is what some people like. But, if we are willing to take a closer look, and find we want to move in a more positive direction, the following statements can help to shine a light on our thinking process. It starts with our thoughts. We wear a path through the mind whether we think of ourselves as a success or a failure. If we find we want to change any of our behaviors, pay attention to your thoughts when you read these statements. How do you feel when you read them? Only then can you adjust how you think. That’s where the healing begins.
I am perfect as I am.
I am not perfect as I am.
I am happy with myself.
I am not happy with myself.
I am a perfectionist.
I am not a perfectionist.
I lie to myself and others.
I do not lie to myself and others.
I am beautiful.
I am ugly.
I am fat.
I am thin.
My, hair, face, eyes, nose, mouth, teen, any body part is perfect.
My every body feature is not perfect.
My body image is all that there is.
I am more than my perception of myself.
I think clearly.
I do not think clearly.
I think thoughts, then move on.
I think thoughts that endlessly circle in my mind.
I can let go of things that no longer serve me.
I cannot let go of things that no longer serve me.
I allow myself to make mistakes without berating myself.
I do not allow myself to make mistakes without berating myself.
I do not have an addictive quality to my likes and dislikes.
I do have an addictive quality to my likes and dislikes.
I need help with mental issues.
I do not need help with mental issues.
I think getting the help I need with mental issues shows my inner strength.
I think getting the help I need with mental issues shows my inner weakness.
I am honest with myself.
I am not honest with myself.
My relationships are healthy.
My relationships are not healthy.
I attract wholesome people to me.
I attract unwholesome people to me.
I attract strong personalities to me.
I attract needy personalities to me.
I stand up for my self in a healthy and affirming way.
I do not stand up for myself in a healthy and affirming way.
I do not stand up for myself at all.
I do not stand up for anything at all.
I stand up to bullies.
I do not stand up to bullies.
My relationships online are healthy.
My relationship online are unhealthy.
I am honest with myself and others.
I am not always honest with myself and others.
I am seldom honest with myself and others.
I am never honest with myself and others.
I have good control over my money.
I do not have good control over my money.
I control money.
Money controls me.
I have enough money.
I do not have enough money.
I always borrow money from people around me.
I do not always borrow money from people around me.
If I borrow money from people around me, I always pay it back.
If I borrow money from people around me, I seldom pay it back.
If I borrow money from people around me, I never pay it back.
I believe in God.
I do not believe in God.
If I do believe in God, I give myself permission to study more about God and can change my mind.
If I do believe in God, I do not give myself permission to study more about God and change my mind.
I am in the same religion as my parents.
I am not in the same religion as my parents.
I have read the Bible.
I have not read the Bible
I give myself permission to read about other faiths.
I do not give myself permission to read about other faiths.
I believe what Jesus said, that the Kingdom of God is inside me.
I do not believe the Kingdom of God is inside me.
If I believe that the Kingdom of God is inside me, I act as if this is true.
If I believe that the Kingdom of God is inside me, I do not act as if this is true.
My spirituality is strong.
My spirituality is weak.
I study Jesus words in the Nag Hammadi Scriptures.
I do not study Jesus words in the Nag Hammadi Scriptures.
Jesus words matter.
Jesus words do not matter.
No matter how we want to improve in any area, if we want to improve on anything at all, it first starts with our thoughts. It does not start with our actions. Actions follow thoughts 100 percent of the time. The following is a guideline for self improvement, if it is desired.
- Observe how you think about a certain topic.
- Decide how you want to change your thinking to the next positive thought about it.
- Try on this new way of thinking of this situation. It will feel odd at first because a negative pathway has already been hardwired into your thinking process. Go easy.
- Recognize that your first thought at the beginning will be a little voice that tells you “this is stupid and it won’t work.” This is a lie. It will work.
- Give yourself permission to be able to make mistakes. You are human. You are going to make a lot more mistakes before you are though.
- Begin again. No one gets life changes right the first, second or even the third time.
- Keep trying. Life is a journey. Enjoy all the moments along the way.
- Smile. You only get one life to live, that you know of, in the here and now.
If you are in a situation you do not like, you can change it. You can begin to make positive changes to your life, no matter what situation you find yourself. Even if you are incarcerated somewhere (I hope you are not, but even if you are) you can start to take positive changes to the way you perceive the things, people and situations around you. Be the change you want to see. Find a more hopeful attitude. It is possible. There is always a way.