NEVER MAKE A DECISION OUT OF FEAR ~ EVIL ONLY TAKES ROOT WHEN ENOUGH GOOD PEOPLE DO NOTHING


When making decisions about next steps to take, there are many valid considerations toSee the source image ponder, but fear ought never be one of them. Fear should never tie us into knots. Whether it is in our personal lives, or civic, educational, financial, moral or even political futures to be weighed, decisions need to be made from a basis of intelligent information, goals to be attained, moving towards where we want to go. Decisions focusing on what we do not want, moving in a direction we do not want to go, or fear of something happening is the worst foundation of any decision.

Solid foundations to base any decision on include desires made from the highest goals with the most love of all people, support of life for all people, fairness and integrity of all people, for the up-building of all people.

See the source imageMaking decisions in life can seem so confusing, as if there are so many possible sides to consider. There is a way to streamline the thinking process and step off the merry-go-round of “spin.” Governments do this. People do this. Both usually have their own agendas. “Spin” does not help you. You know what your goal is. Focus on your goal.

First, stop thinking of all the fear-based thoughts surrounding the issue. Focusing on what you do not want keeps you focusing on what you don’t want.

Second, list all of the positive benefits leading to your end goal. Write down as many as come to your mind without dismissing any positive benefit.

Third, do not allow any influences to give you negative input in the guise of “looking at both side.” You can kindly inform them that they can make their decisions that way if they wish, but this is your decision. Do not listen to anyone who tries to instill fear.

Fourth, map out the steps you need to take to accomplish your goal unhindered by negative thoughts or negative people.

These steps might seem like common sense, but so often we give away our own personal power to someone or something else. All too often we cave in to fear, fear of this happening, fear of counter-attack, fear of loss of popularity, fear of judgment, fear of failure, or even fear of success, fear, fear, fear. The list goes on.

Imagine a country who only wanted the best for all people with no fear; to be a haven for war-torn countries with no fear; to have the means and opportunity to feed the poor and shelter the homeless with no fear; to build and repair roads and bridges with no fear; generate more technologies and innovation for the health of the future in all countries with no fear.

Imagine a person, who despite past failure, gets up and tries yet again to realize a dream fulfilled, based on their hopes and life-giving qualities, until their goal comes to a life of its own.

Imagine a world with a goal of peace, mutual cooperation with multiple benefits to all citizens in all countries.

We are living in a time where we have a host of positive plausible possibilities, in our personal lives, in our communities, in our states and in our countries. We need to tip the scales of thinking good, saying good, being good, and doing good.

Evil only takes root when enough good people do nothing.

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BORN TO MANIFEST THE GLORY


“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.10423747_10153050671147625_2308527722364642074_n

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves

who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that

other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are born to make manifest the glory of God

that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

And as we let our light shine, we unconsciously

give other people permission  to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,

our presence automatically liberates others.”

– Nelson Mandela

1994 Inaugural Speech

 

When we choose to carry an imbalance of self-worth within us, we are making the active choice to go into fear, or stay in fear-based, erroneous thought. It is a choice, conscious or unconscious. We choose to think our thoughts. We are not a victim here, unless we choose to be.

The fact that our self-worth is a direct product of what we feed our mind with can be upsetting to some people who do not yet realize that they are in charge of their thoughts, moods, words and actions.

Our thoughts, moods, words and actions do not choose us. We choose them. It is our deciding to believe either what we tell ourselves, or others tell us that can sabotage us.

How do we remedy this?

We always want to work with the free will of our I AM Presence, our personal Source and in accordance with Divine Will. This will give us clarity. Then, we consciously decide if we want to choose self-sabotaging thoughts, moods, words and actions, or if we want to consciously decide to stop this dysfunction in its tracks. Each one of us can do this by actively choosing to think thoughts of higher vibrations, which gives birth to life-giving breath to new and invigorating thoughts, opening the door to inspiration and possibility thinking.

One way to move past dysfunctional and self-sabotaging habits of the past that have stifled our growth mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually, is to begin, or begin again to allow ourselves to think new thoughts.

If we do not like how we are feeling, we need to change how we are thinking. This concept helps with every facet of life, even physical illness. We may not be able to change the past and many other things in our life, but what we choose in our response, of what we to do next, which is the answer to peace, love and joy for the rest of our life.

Remember, it takes 21 days to change a deeply ingrained dysfunctional habit. During these first 21 days of deciding to think, say and do things differently, infusing hope, peace and forgiveness – especially of ourselves; start and re-start again. If we catch ourselves in the old habit, we need to remind ourselves to STOP, and start yet again.

The reason I say to infuse forgiveness – especially of ourselves, is that we can be the harshest of critics, holding grudges to ourselves, which never allows for healing. So, if we really want to grow in self-esteem, to realize that we are perfect as we are, we need to let go of what no longer serves us. Our thoughts, words and actions may have served us in the past. But now is time to wake up and move on. We need to liberate of ourselves from the misguided concepts of perfection.

We are perfect as we are created by the glory of God, which we can radiate, if we allow ourselves to do just that. It is what we choose with our free will once we become aware of the limitless possibilities and opportunities before us that shape our future.

Now is the time to manifest the glory of God in each one of us.

NAMASTE

ENTHUSIAM IS POWER ~ ENTHUSIAM HEALS


pmaEnthusiasm is power. Enthusiasm is inspiration. Enthusiasm concentrates and feeds the powers of the mind, and gives them wings of action. Enthusiasm is the magic emotion that transforms negative into positive emotions. Enthusiasm heals.

 

Enthusiasm is one of the greatest assets every member of the human race has at her or his fingertips. The effects of enthusiasm are stronger than money, power and influence.

Enthusiasm tramples over prejudice and opposition, spurns inaction, is the offspring of motive, and is faith in action.

Enthusiasm lifts the mind and heart, allowing Light and Love to overflow where formerly stagnant negativity dewlt.

Enthusiasm is dynamic, a burning desire, and a force to be reckoned with.

Enthusiasm steps up the vibrations of thought and alerts the imagination.

Enthusiasm takes the drudgery out of labor.

Enthusiasm gives a pleasing, convincing color to the tone of voice, adds attractiveness to your personality, inspires self-confidence, and aids in the maintenance of sound health.

Enthusiasm is a radiation of our spirit and it’s twin, our will, and is closely related to Infinite Intelligence.

Enthusiasm is the action factor of thought.

Enthusiasm does not mix with fear, envy, greed, jealousy, doubt, revenge, hatred, intolerance and procrastination.

Enthusiasm thrives only on positive thoughts and actions.

Enthusiasm inspires personal initiative, dispels physical fatigue, and overcomes laziness.

Enthusiasm, will power and persistance are triplets that give us sustained action with a minimum loss of physical energy.

Enthusiasm is positive mental attitute in action.

Enthusiasm is related to every faculty of the mind, and is the action-producing factor.

Enthusiasm arouses the subconscious mind to greater activity, inspiring it to project itself deeply into the reservoirs of Infinite Intelligence, where the answers to all human problems exist.

These excepts are taken from “Science Of Success,” by Napoleon Hill.

Namaste

Healing Emotional Blackmail ~ (FOG) ~ Fear, Obligation, Guilt And Maniplation


pmaWhether or not you or someone you know has a personality disorder, healing our personal fears by strengthening our Will helps. However, some of the fears we have initiate from those around us, and sometimes, by those closest to us, as they attempt to inflict fear, obligation and guilt (FOG) in subtle, or not so subtle ways, including but not limited to emotional blackmail and manipulation. Whether our fears originate from our own minds and hearts, or whether our fears originate as a projection from others that we consciously or unconsciously agree to accept, the remedy is still the same. Heal your Will by strengthening and using it.

FOG was first coined by Dr. Susan Forward, who wrote “Emotional Blackmail” with Donna Frazier. The book describes feelings that a person often has when in a relationship with someone who suffers from a personality disorder. These two women also authored the book, “The Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them.”

One of the most recent courses I took was on personality disorders, and the possible solutions. As I thought, people with personality disorders rarely improve with medications. Whether people took medications or not, what improved their situation was their own drive and wish to improve. People did not improve when they chose not to, no matter how intensely those around them wanted them to. Addictions to drugs, alcohol, drinking, gluttony, gambling, and everything else in life we can over to it on, are crutches people with personality disorders use to cope with their dysfunction.

We can only heal our own addictions ourselves, with the help of the good God above, and only then, if we want to improve. Why do I say if we want to improve? There is a hidden trap that can sabotage us if we do not fully realize what is going on. On a surface level, we know when we feel bad, our self-esteem is low, or we know we need to do something because we know we do not like the way we are feeling. That is when the sabotage appears.

Sabotage infiltrates our thinking. Often the next step in the thinking process is that we review our past failures, even though we tried as best we could to overcome them. We acknowledge how hard we really did try, and then failed, again. After that comes the thought, “Why bother?”

The key to healing personality disorders as well as the addictions that so often accompany them, is in our next thought after that. We can break in to the negative stream of self-destructing coping behaviors.

The first order of business is to tell yourself to STOP. Stop in your tracks. You CAN take control of your thoughts. You can do this. You think your thoughts, always. Your thoughts do not think you.

Improving on how we feel is a three step process

  • Desire to feel better
  • Deciding to do something about it
  • You are not a victim

Step One, desire to feel better. This comes naturally, no matter how sick we think we are, unless we have beat ourselves beyond recognition. Realize you are still “in there” and you can feel better. Yes, when it comes to the coping behaviors that we have learned like addictions, which backfire as they always will, know there is another way to healing your mind and your habits. Get back that desire to feel better.

Step Two, decide to do something about it. Yes you can. Today, like any other day, you will decide what to do with the next 12-24 hours. Even if an interruption or surprise happens in your day, you will decide what to do with that. You have been deciding what to do with every action your have ever made, good or bad, all of your life. Today you can realize that you can decide to do something different, like beginning the healing process to feel better.

Step Three is HUGE. YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM. You are not a victim of your life. Life did not happen to you without your consent along the way. Life is not always kind or loving. That does not mean that the answer to being hurt along the way is to become hateful, angry and bitter. That only increases the trouble you are currently having. Once you realize that you are not a victim of your life, you can then take the necessary steps to make it better.

Many of the postings in this blog are self help tools that benefit everyone who wishes to try them. They work 100 percent of the time. The onlyTruth time they will not work, is if someone stops doing them. In this case, focusing our attention on healing our Will, not giving in to everyone else’s ideas of what you shoud do in your life, makes our Will stronger. When your Will is strong, family, friends and everyone else, cannot pull your emotional strings as if you were a puppet dancing across life’s stage at the whims of your puppetmaster family, friends and others.

These dysfunctional habits of having or accepting fear, obligation, guilt, emotional blackmail and manipulation in our lives, often occur to us slowly. We may wonder if something is wrong with us, or why we constantly fall into these traps. It is not until we become aware we are living our life by walking on eggshells, that we say enough is enough, and strengthen our Will.

We must be in balance to be healthy. Strengthen your Will. It is a God-given quality for us to use. We are not doormats.

All personality disorders benefit from healing their Will. Even if you are a person with no personality disorders, you will benefit from strengthening your Will.

Stengthening our Will is not the same thing as turning into a bully, or bowling people over with our words or actions. If you are going to try to strengthening your Will, go easy on yourself as you start first observing yourself, then trying on new behaviors of finding your voice and asserting yourself. You will find a way that will work for you. But remember, it takes 21 days to change a habit. Stay with it and you will bloom.

Release Negativity and Fear ~ Reclaim Personal Power


Spiritual psychology inspires us to learn through wisdom. Some of us learn better than others, while others

My chi has a headache and it's all her fault!
My chi has a headache and it’s all her fault!

choose to take the scenic route of experience. Eventually we learn, even if it is via the hard way. Discussions about negativity and fear always have to do with our personal power. It is in the misuse of personal power where negativity and fear are born.

We do not stop losing our personal power by refusing to recognize our fear, by anesthetizing ourselves to what we feel. Denying we have given away our power keeps our dysfunction going in repetitive cycles.

Without realizing it, we can turn to using psychological crutches that cripple us emotionally and spiritually. We freely give it away. How do we give away our personal power?

We give away our personal power every time we lose power to rage against an injustice, when you are threatened by another person or people, or distance ourselves from others our of resentment or bitterness or a sense of disappointment, unworthiness or superiority. We even give away our personal power when we long for something or someone, like through grieving and envy. Beneath all these emotions is fear, fear, fear.

Perhaps the biggest drain on personal power escaping from us is through the act of complaining, trying to make someone else responsible for our own actions, and setting up expectations that someone else should fix the problems we find ourselves in. Examining our motives will shed a light on our real intentions.

We also lose personal power through the emotion of regret where we cling to negativity. Regret keeps us stuck in yesterday, spreads the blanket of gloom and doom over our present, and forecasts dark days ahead things that usually never even happen. How many times have we anxiously worried about situations that never happened? It is such a colossal waste of time and energy.

Love, compassion, empathy and forgiveness are the marks of a truly empowered person. Authentic humility is such an attractive quality, a fulcrum spiritual gem that balances the heart, mind and soul with peace that knows no bounds.

It is not about bully strength seeking to manipulate others. Manipulators drain their own energies, misguidedly thinking they have power. Notice the bouts of exhaustion followed by this tactical approach. Both the manipulator and the manipulated suffer.

The answer lies not in denying our emotions, but in facing our self destructing habits. Once recognized, it is only then that we can take responsibility for our selves, and begin the road to recovery. The first step is to forgive ourselves and others. Hanging on to bitterness is a psychological trip that will keep us in the past on an endless loop of energy loss. After forgiving, oh yes we CAN forgive, we can move on to infusing genuine Love, compassion, and empathy into the void fear and its well of negativity left behind. The more we are filled with Love, and remain in this Love, the more we are graced by God, gifted by Holy Spirit, through the model of all LOVE, Jesus Christ.

This is the road to spiritual health.

There Is Only One Race On This Planet ~ The Human Race ~ Repost


 

The human race on Earth is the only race there is

Whether we are discussing the differences in race, color, ethnicity, creed, financial status or gender, we must realize that on this planet, there is only one race, the human race.

Sometimes we try to hide our prejudices behind other reasons, to justify the positions we take politically, socially, environmentally, religiously, or any other way we human beings use to suppress the voice of others. We are more alike than any difference we profess.

The root cause of prejudice is fear, not hatred. While certain groups may be extremely angry about an issue, the underlying cause of anger is fear. Why are we so afraid of other people, their belief system, their culture, their gender? Think of how we respond to someone expressing a different viewpoint, or addressing uncomfortable issues such as immigration, homelessness and hungry children in our country and the world.

Fear promotes radical groups in any of the human categories mentioned. If we are truly serious about fixing our world, before we can build any bridges to repair the damage we have caused, we must eradicate the root cause of fear. War, murder and killing are not communication skills.

We have made great progress in this country and in the world. We should celebrate the strides we have made. But there is more to do, more to share, more to learn, more to understand, more to forgive, more to let go. It is not about being right, or wrong, or making others right or wrong. There is no way to make up for the loss of life through war, violence, bloodshed, or retaliation. Two wrongs do not make a right. We need to build bridges to and for all people everywhere.

Despite all our unique differences, we all share this one beautiful planet. We are all born in the same way, we all breathe air while we are here, and we all die. We are all having a shared human experience. Our life is in our blood, without which we would cease to be. No one soul is better than any other soul on this planet, no matter what our pride (insane ego) might be telling us.

There is only one race on this planet.

It’s the human race.

There Is Only One Race On This Planet~ The Human Race


The human race on Earth is the only race there is

Whether we are discussing the differences in race, color, ethnicity, creed, financial status or gender, we must realize that on this planet, there is only one race, the human race.

Sometimes we try to hide our prejudices behind other reasons, to justify the positions we take politically, socially, environmentally, religiously, or any other way we human beings use to suppress the voice of others. We are more alike than any difference we profess.

The root cause of prejudice is fear, not hatred. While certain groups may be extremely angry about an issue, the underlying cause of anger is fear. Why are we so afraid of other people, their belief system, their culture, their gender? Think of how we respond to someone expressing a different viewpoint, or addressing uncomfortable issues such as immigration, homelessness and hungry children in our country and the world.

Fear promotes radical groups in any of the human categories mentioned. If we are truly serious about fixing our world, before we can build any bridges to repair the damage we have caused, we must eradicate the root cause of fear. War, murder and killing are not communication skills.

We have made great progress in this country and in the world. We should celebrate the strides we have made. But there is more to do, more to share, more to learn, more to understand, more to forgive, more to let go. It is not about being right, or wrong, or making others right or wrong. There is no way to make up for the loss of life through war, violence, bloodshed, or retaliation. Two wrongs do not make a right. We need to build bridges to and for all people everywhere.

Despite all our unique differences, we all share this one beautiful planet. We are all born in the same way, we all breathe air while we are here, and we all die. We are all having a shared human experience. Our life is in our blood, without which we would cease to be. No one soul is better than any other soul on this planet, no matter what our pride (insane ego) might be telling us.

There is only one race on this planet.

It’s the human race.