Release Negativity and Fear ~ Reclaim Personal Power


Spiritual psychology inspires us to learn through wisdom. Some of us learn better than others, while others

My chi has a headache and it's all her fault!
My chi has a headache and it’s all her fault!

choose to take the scenic route of experience. Eventually we learn, even if it is via the hard way. Discussions about negativity and fear always have to do with our personal power. It is in the misuse of personal power where negativity and fear are born.

We do not stop losing our personal power by refusing to recognize our fear, by anesthetizing ourselves to what we feel. Denying we have given away our power keeps our dysfunction going in repetitive cycles.

Without realizing it, we can turn to using psychological crutches that cripple us emotionally and spiritually. We freely give it away. How do we give away our personal power?

We give away our personal power every time we lose power to rage against an injustice, when you are threatened by another person or people, or distance ourselves from others our of resentment or bitterness or a sense of disappointment, unworthiness or superiority. We even give away our personal power when we long for something or someone, like through grieving and envy. Beneath all these emotions is fear, fear, fear.

Perhaps the biggest drain on personal power escaping from us is through the act of complaining, trying to make someone else responsible for our own actions, and setting up expectations that someone else should fix the problems we find ourselves in. Examining our motives will shed a light on our real intentions.

We also lose personal power through the emotion of regret where we cling to negativity. Regret keeps us stuck in yesterday, spreads the blanket of gloom and doom over our present, and forecasts dark days ahead things that usually never even happen. How many times have we anxiously worried about situations that never happened? It is such a colossal waste of time and energy.

Love, compassion, empathy and forgiveness are the marks of a truly empowered person. Authentic humility is such an attractive quality, a fulcrum spiritual gem that balances the heart, mind and soul with peace that knows no bounds.

It is not about bully strength seeking to manipulate others. Manipulators drain their own energies, misguidedly thinking they have power. Notice the bouts of exhaustion followed by this tactical approach. Both the manipulator and the manipulated suffer.

The answer lies not in denying our emotions, but in facing our self destructing habits. Once recognized, it is only then that we can take responsibility for our selves, and begin the road to recovery. The first step is to forgive ourselves and others. Hanging on to bitterness is a psychological trip that will keep us in the past on an endless loop of energy loss. After forgiving, oh yes we CAN forgive, we can move on to infusing genuine Love, compassion, and empathy into the void fear and its well of negativity left behind. The more we are filled with Love, and remain in this Love, the more we are graced by God, gifted by Holy Spirit, through the model of all LOVE, Jesus Christ.

This is the road to spiritual health.

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There Is Only One Race On This Planet ~ The Human Race ~ Repost


 

The human race on Earth is the only race there is

Whether we are discussing the differences in race, color, ethnicity, creed, financial status or gender, we must realize that on this planet, there is only one race, the human race.

Sometimes we try to hide our prejudices behind other reasons, to justify the positions we take politically, socially, environmentally, religiously, or any other way we human beings use to suppress the voice of others. We are more alike than any difference we profess.

The root cause of prejudice is fear, not hatred. While certain groups may be extremely angry about an issue, the underlying cause of anger is fear. Why are we so afraid of other people, their belief system, their culture, their gender? Think of how we respond to someone expressing a different viewpoint, or addressing uncomfortable issues such as immigration, homelessness and hungry children in our country and the world.

Fear promotes radical groups in any of the human categories mentioned. If we are truly serious about fixing our world, before we can build any bridges to repair the damage we have caused, we must eradicate the root cause of fear. War, murder and killing are not communication skills.

We have made great progress in this country and in the world. We should celebrate the strides we have made. But there is more to do, more to share, more to learn, more to understand, more to forgive, more to let go. It is not about being right, or wrong, or making others right or wrong. There is no way to make up for the loss of life through war, violence, bloodshed, or retaliation. Two wrongs do not make a right. We need to build bridges to and for all people everywhere.

Despite all our unique differences, we all share this one beautiful planet. We are all born in the same way, we all breathe air while we are here, and we all die. We are all having a shared human experience. Our life is in our blood, without which we would cease to be. No one soul is better than any other soul on this planet, no matter what our pride (insane ego) might be telling us.

There is only one race on this planet.

It’s the human race.

There Is Only One Race On This Planet~ The Human Race


The human race on Earth is the only race there is

Whether we are discussing the differences in race, color, ethnicity, creed, financial status or gender, we must realize that on this planet, there is only one race, the human race.

Sometimes we try to hide our prejudices behind other reasons, to justify the positions we take politically, socially, environmentally, religiously, or any other way we human beings use to suppress the voice of others. We are more alike than any difference we profess.

The root cause of prejudice is fear, not hatred. While certain groups may be extremely angry about an issue, the underlying cause of anger is fear. Why are we so afraid of other people, their belief system, their culture, their gender? Think of how we respond to someone expressing a different viewpoint, or addressing uncomfortable issues such as immigration, homelessness and hungry children in our country and the world.

Fear promotes radical groups in any of the human categories mentioned. If we are truly serious about fixing our world, before we can build any bridges to repair the damage we have caused, we must eradicate the root cause of fear. War, murder and killing are not communication skills.

We have made great progress in this country and in the world. We should celebrate the strides we have made. But there is more to do, more to share, more to learn, more to understand, more to forgive, more to let go. It is not about being right, or wrong, or making others right or wrong. There is no way to make up for the loss of life through war, violence, bloodshed, or retaliation. Two wrongs do not make a right. We need to build bridges to and for all people everywhere.

Despite all our unique differences, we all share this one beautiful planet. We are all born in the same way, we all breathe air while we are here, and we all die. We are all having a shared human experience. Our life is in our blood, without which we would cease to be. No one soul is better than any other soul on this planet, no matter what our pride (insane ego) might be telling us.

There is only one race on this planet.

It’s the human race.

Healing Emotional Blackmail ~ (FOG) ~ Fear, Obligation, Guilt And Manipulation ~ Repost


pmaWhether or not you or someone you know has a personality disorder, healing our personal fears by strengthening our Will, helps. However, some of the fears we have initiate from those around us, and sometimes, by those closest to us, as they attempt to inflict fear, obligation and guilt (FOG) in subtle, or not so subtle ways, including but not limited to emotional blackmail and manipulation. Whether our fears originate from our own minds and hearts, or whether our fears originate as a projection from others that we consciously or unconsciously agree to accept, the remedy is still the same. Heal your Will by strengthening and using it.

FOG was first coined by Dr. Susan Forward, who wrote “Emotional Blackmail” with Donna Frazier. The book describes feelings that a person often has when in a relationship with someone who suffers from a personality disorder. These two women also authored the book, “The Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them.”

In my never ending quest to take classes to satisfy by CEU requirements to keep my license, one of the most recent courses I took was on personality disorders, and the possible solutions. As I thought, people with personality disorders rarely improve with medications. Whether people took medications or not, what improved their situation was their own drive and wish to improve. People did not improve when they chose not to, no matter how intensely those around them wanted them to. We can only heal ourselves, like drug and alcohol addiction.

Many of the postings in this blog are self help tools that benefit everyone who wishes to try them. They work 100 percent of the time. The onlyTruth time they will not work, is if someone stops doing them. In this case, focusing our attention on healing our Will, not giving in to everyone else’s ideas of what you shoud do in your life, makes our Will stronger. When your Will is strong, family, friends and everyone else, cannot pull your emotional strings as if you were a puppet dancing across life’s stage at the whims of your puppetmaster family, friends and others.

These dysfunctional habits of having or accepting fear, obligation, guilt, emotional blackmail and manipulation in our lives, often occur to us slowly. We may wonder if something is wrong with us, or why we constantly fall into these traps. It is not until we become aware we are living our life by walking on eggshells, that we say enough is enough, and strengthen our Will.

We must be in balance to be healthy. Strengthen your Will.

All personality disorders benefit from healing their Will. Even if you are a person with no personality disorders, you will benefit from strengthening your Will.

Stengthening our Will is not the same thing as turning into a bully, or bowling people over with our words or actions. If you are going to try to strengthening your Will, go easy on yourself as you start first observing yourself, then trying on new behaviors of finding your voice and asserting yourself. You will find a way that will work for you. But remember, it takes 21 days to change a habit. Stay with it and you will bloom.

Krishnamurti on Nationalism ~ Repost 2


Nationalism always produces war, and the problem is not to be solved by bringing about further nationalism, which is only an avoidance of the fact

Humans all the same. Picture courtesy of J. Krishnamurti.
Humans all the same. Picture courtesy of J. Krishnamurti.
and an extension of the same poison, but by being free of nationalism, of the sense of belonging to a particular group, to a particular class of society.

The separate spirit of nationalism is spreading like fire all over the world. Patriotism is cultivated and cleverly exploited by those who are seeking further expansion, wider powers, greater enrichment; and each one of us takes part in this process, for we desire these things. Conquering other lands and other people provides new markets for goods as well as for political and religious ideologies.

Nationalism, the patriotic spirit, class and race consciousness, are all ways of the self, and therefore separate. After all, what is a nation but a group of individuals living together for economic and self-protective reasons? Out of fear and acquisitive self-defense arises the idea of “my country”, with its boundaries and tariff walls, rendering brotherhood and the unity of man impossible.

It is because we are nationalists, ready to defend our sovereign States, our beliefs and acquisitions, that we must be perpetually be armed. Property and ideas have become more important to us than human life, so there is constant antagonism and violence between ourselves and others. By maintaining the sovereignty of our country, we are destroying our sons; by worshiping the State, which is but a projection of ourselves, we are sacrificing our children to our own gratification. Nationalism and sovereign governments are the causes and instruments of war.

_______J KRISHNAMURTY

Thank you J KRISHNAMURTY.

Heal Fear, Obligation, Guilt (FOG), Emotional Blackmail and Manipulation by Healing Your Will ~ Repost


pmaWhether or not you or someone you know has a personality disorder, healing our personal fears by strengthening our Will, helps. However, some of the fears we have initiate from those around us, and sometimes, by those closest to us, as they attempt to inflict fear, obligation and guilt (FOG) in subtle, or not so subtle ways, including but not limited to emotional blackmail and manipulation. Whether our fears originate from our own minds and hearts, or whether our fears originate as a projection from others that we consciously or unconsciously agree to accept, the remedy is still the same. Heal the God-given gift of your Will by strengthening and using it as the good Lord intended.

FOG was first coined by Dr. Susan Forward, who wrote “Emotional Blackmail” with Donna Frazier. The book describes feelings that a person often has when in a relationship with someone who suffers from a personality disorder. These two women also authored the book, “The Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them.”

In my never ending quest to take classes to satisfy by CEU requirements to keep my license, one of the most recent courses I took was on personality disorders, and the possible solutions. As I thought, people with personality disorders rarely improve with medications. Whether people took medications or not, what improved their situation was their own drive and wish to improve. People did not improve when they chose not to, no matter how intensely those around them wanted them to. We can only heal ourselves, like drug and alcohol addiction.

Many of the postings in this blog are self help tools that benefit everyone who wishes to try them. They work 100 percent of the time. The onlyTruth time they will not work, is if someone stops doing them. In this case, focusing our attention on healing our Will, not giving in to everyone else’s ideas of what you shoud do in your life, makes our Will stronger. When your Will is strong, family, friends and everyone else, cannot pull your emotional strings as if you were a puppet dancing across life’s stage at the whims of your puppetmaster family, friends and others.

These dysfunctional habits of having or accepting fear, obligation, guilt, emotional blackmail and manipulation in our lives, often occur to us slowly. We may wonder if something is wrong with us, or why we constantly fall into these traps. It is not until we become aware we are living our life by walking on eggshells, that we say enough is enough, and strengthen our Will.

We must be in balance to be healthy. It is not against God to strengthen your Will. God gave you your Will for you to use, not abuse or deny it. Our Will is the other half of our Spirit, also God-given. Both of these imprints, our Will and our Spirit, are part of what makes us made in the image and likeness of God. To deny our Spirit is to deny God. To deny our Will is to deny God. They are the God part of us.

All personality disorders benefit from healing their Will. Even if you are a person with no personality disorders, you will benefit from strengthening your Will.

Stengthening our Will is not the same thing as turning into a bully, or bowling people over with our words or actions. If you are going to try to strengthening your Will, go easy on yourself as you start first observing yourself, then trying on new behaviors of finding your voice and asserting yourself. You will find a way that will work for you. But remember, it takes 21 days to change a habit. Stay with it and you will bloom.

Stop Feeding The Fear ~ Group Meditation Drops Crime Rates by 48 Percent in 1993 in the District Of Columbia


Whether we’re discussing personal stress, anxiety and panic attacks, or whether we’re discussing nation against nation, cause against cause, or all crimes in general, it is illogical to think

Meditation and prayer for peace has a rippling effect.

we can have peace by feeding the fear that robs people and governments of the goal of peace. The fact is, what we focus on grows. If we keep the focus on stress, what we will get is more stress. If we keep the focus on anxiety, we will get more anxiety. If we keep the focus on panic attacks, we will get more panic attacks. If we keep the focus on war, we get more war. If we put our focus on peace, we will get more peace. This is a scientifically proven fact.From June 7 to July 31, 1993, there was a documented study called the National Demonstration Project, which showed the dramatic effects of meditation on preventing violent crime in Washington, D.C. It was run by the Institute of Science, Technology and Public Policy from Marharishi University Management, of Fairfield, Iowa, USA. A 27 member, independent review board encompassing sociologist and criminologists from leading universities, representatives from the police department and governement from the District of Columbia, and civic leaders, oversaw and monitored its progress.

“Based on the results of the study, the steady gain (long term effect) associated with the a permanent of 4,000 members, in the Transcendental Meditation and TM Sidhi programs (meditation groups), was calculated as a 48 percent reduction in HRA (homicide, rape and assault) crimes in the District of Columbia.

Given the strength of these results, their consistancy of the positive results of previous research, the grave human and financial costs of violent crime, and the lack of other effective and scientific methods to reduce crime, policy makers are urged to apply this approach on a large scale for the benefit of society.” Taken from the Results of the National Demonstration Project To Reduce Violent Crime and Improve Governmental Effectiveness in Washington, D.C. Social Indicators Research, 47, 153-201.

People are not cured and relieved from the terror of their fears, by concentrating on their fears.

People are not cured from the ramifications of stress, by focusing all their time and attention on their stressors.

People with panic attacks are not freed from these physical assaults, by focusing on them.

War will not go away by planning the next war.

There are 7.028 billion people in the world today, according to the US and World Population Clocks. Imagine if we all start, right where we are, meditating and praying each day for world peace. The positive ripples of peace will flow out to all areas in great need of peace. It all starts with a concept. It all starts with you and with me.