Balancing Peace and Happiness in Daily Life ~ Successfully Beating Depression

Balancing peace and happiness amid the hectic pace of every day life can be quite challenging. Some of us are naturally happy and peaceful, yet not all of us are wired that way. We can all get in dysfunctional ruts. What practices can we include in our days to make them seem brighter and calmer in the midst of winter doldrums and/or days of depression?

The act of balancing requires focusing our attention on a desire to be balanced. How many times do we tell ourselves that we want balance, peace and happiness in our daily lives, but soon settle for our comfortable habits that pay no attention to these desires?

We might even act out and do the opposite, engaging in self-sabotaging behaviors just to prove to ourselves that we are in charge of ourselves, when the total opposite may be true. Without conscious effort it is easy to stay in a negative or depressing loop.

We may not realize it, but that is a choice we are actively making. Focusing our mental energy on the goal of balancing our life is the surprising answer to bringing peace and happiness to our life. No matter how long we might have struggled with this problem in the past, it is possible to fix this. Know that it is not impossible.

It is important to pay attention to our energy, especially to how we energize our thoughts. Whatever we think about, we bring about. If we do not like how we are feeling, it is vital we change how we are thinking. As a matter of fact, if we refuse to change how we are thinking, there is absolutely nothing anyone else can say or do that will change how we feel. Only we can do that. Yes, it is possible to do that.

We are not the victims of our thoughts. Thoughts do not think us. We think our thoughts. We have the ability to change our thoughts at any given moment. This particular point usually infuriates us the first time we hear it. However, this is a true statement and is encouraging for us to acknowledge this.

If we want to improve in balancing our lives with peace and happiness, we can ask ourselves these questions:

Do I weigh myself down with a victim consciousness, or martyr complex?

How is my self-esteem?

What messages do I constantly tell myself?

Do I find I need to explain myself to others?

Do I feel the need to justify my actions?

Do I believe in myself?

Am I a control freak?

Do I have a passive/aggressive personality, trying to solve other life issues outside of myself by aggressively controlling the inside of myself through my diet, exercise or any other means of not addressing the issue head on?

Do I allow others to speak to me in disrespectful ways?

Do I allow others to treat me in disrespectful ways?

Am I honest with myself?

How is my health?

How is my diet?

How is my weight?

How is my attitude?

How is my mental health?

How is my emotional health?

How is my spiritual health?

Do I approach life as a daily struggle, concentrating on my work load and to-do-lists, which are outside of me, rather than working on my own character development inside of my heart, mind and soul?

Do I have addictions to food, alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex or any other addiction?

Do I live my life as an imaginary or real fight against the ideologies of others?

Do I make time for exercise in my daily life to the level that is appropriate for me, either gentle stretches, walking, going to the gym, Yoga or other forms of exercise?

Do I take time to pray?

Do I take time to meditate?

Do I contemplate?

Do I really listen?

Do I listen with an answer running, which is not really listening at all?

Do I read or listen to audio books to learn or be inspired?

Do I give myself permission to change my mind when new information presents itself?

Can I admit when I am wrong?

Do I forgive* myself when I am in the wrong?

Do I forgive* others when they wrong me?

*A quick note regarding forgiveness here is, holding on to grudges and non-forgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

The winter months are the perfect time for personal reflection on what can truly bring us peace and happiness, both of which bring balance to our days as a positive side benefit.



If You Do Not Like How You Are Feeling, Change How You Are Thinking

Moods follow thoughts, always. It is never the other way around. It always works this way. The only time this does not work, is if someone refusespma to change what they are thinking about. Changing what you are thinking about is easy, unless you are addicted to negativity, or playing the victim, or the martyr, or you are just plain stuck.

Sometimes we wake up wondering if we will have a good day today, or what will our mood be, as if we have no idea the actual power we really do possess. Some of us have a good day until the wind blows in another direction we weren’t expecting, then go downhill from there as if we have to stay with the descending thought, or energy pattern.

Taking control of your thoughts works both if you are taking prescription medications or not. As a holistic counselor treating people with drugless therapies, please know that this always works, if it is practiced. The trouble is that we can get stuck in a rut of our own dysfunction. Consciously or subconsciously, we can revolt to hearing the idea that we can change what we are thinking. Wouldn’t we get out of a bad mood if we could? You can. It is a choice you make to stay with the thoughts you are thinking, or to change how you are thinking. Yes, you can.

Our ego can sometimes like to think that we are a victim or a martyr, so we can keep feeding the ego, not always a great thing to feed. The ego likes to be right, and cries for attention, puffing up our pride to such a height that the fall to reality can be startling. Take control of your thoughts anyway. Even your ego will thank you in the end.

Start by thinking the next lightest thought, the thought with the possibility of a positive solution. It is important that it be a positive thought, especially if you are stuck in negative thinking. Changing how you are thinking, if you are in a habit of negative thinking, is like wearing two left shoes. Changing any habit will feel odd. Another good thing to know is that it takes 21 days to change a habit. Day 22 of any life change will begin to feel more normal the more you continue to practice it. You have to start somewhere, so start today.

If you are depressed, have low self esteem, or experience moods you would rather not, try changing your thinking to the next most life giving, affirming thoughts. Begin by the improving the messages you tell yourself on a regular basis. You are a worthwhile, important, and beautiful person. There is nothing you cannot do if you set your mind to it.

Enthusiasm ~ A Strong Positive Mental Attitude ~ Heals

pmaEnthusiasm is power. Enthusiasm is inspiration. Enthusiasm concentrates and feeds the powers of the mind, and gives them wings of action. Enthusiasm is the magic emotion that transforms negative into positive emotions. Enthusiasm heals.

Enthusiasm is one of the greatest assets every member of the human race has at her or his fingertips. The effects of enthusiasm are stronger than money, power and influence.

Enthusiasm tramples over prejudice and opposition, spurns inaction, is the offspring of motive, and is faith in action.

Enthusiasm lifts the mind and heart, allowing Light and Love to overflow where formerly stagnant negativity dewlt.

Enthusiasm is dynamic, a burning desire, and a force to be reckoned with.

Enthusiasm steps up the vibrations of thought and alerts the imagination.

Enthusiasm takes the drudgery out of labor.

Enthusiasm gives a pleasing, convincing color to the tone of voice, adds attractiveness to your personality, inspires self-confidence, and aids in the maintenance of sound health.

Enthusiasm is a radiation of our spirit and it’s twin, our will, and is closely related to Infinite Intelligence.

Enthusiasm is the action factor of thought.

Enthusiasm does not mix with fear, envy, greed, jealousy, doubt, revenge, hatred, intolerance and procrastination.

Enthusiasm thrives only on positive thoughts and actions.

Enthusiasm inspires personal initiative, dispels physical fatigue, and overcomes laziness.

Enthusiasm, will power and persistance are triplets that give us sustained action with a minimum loss of physical energy.

Enthusiasm is positive mental attitute in action.

Enthusiasm is related to every faculty of the mind, and is the action-producing factor.

Enthusiasm arouses the subconscious mind to greater activity, inspiring it to project itself deeply into the reservoirs of Infinite Intelligence, where the answers to all human problems exist.

These excepts are taken from “Science Of Success,” by Napoleon Hill.


40 Tips for Happy Health Life – MUST READ & SHARE~

You can choose to be happy.
You can choose to be happy.
40 Tips for Happy Health Life has circulated on the internet, and has wonderful pearls of wisdom for your happiness health. It is interesting that the first tip is to drink plenty of water. Did you know if your brain gets two percent dehydrated, you can easily get muddled thinking and forgetful memory? We can choose to be happy, it helps to keep us healthy on many levels.

1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants, and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
5. Make time for prayer and reflection
6. Play more games.
7. Read more books than you did in 2013.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
9. Sleep for 7 hours.

10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day —- and while you walk, smile.
11. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don’t have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don’t over do; keep your limits.
14. Don’t take yourself so seriously; no one else does.
15. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake.
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
18. Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything.
28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.

32. Do the right things.
33. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. Forgiveness heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come.
38. When you awake alive in the morning, don’t take it for granted – embrace life.
39. Your inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Last but not least:
40. Enjoy LIFE!


Natural Cures For Sadness ~ You Are Made Of Light ~ Remedies for S.A.D. (Seasonal Affective Disorder)

winter lightThere is Life in the Light in you. You are made of Light, by the Light, for the Light. Shorter winter days have fewer hours of light shining around you, but that is not the only place Light dwells. There are natural remedies that can have real and lasting effects. Light and Life come into our beings from a variety of places. It is not all about being in sunshine, although that also works. Sometimes there is a connection between the seasons and our bouts of sadness. Other times, our sadness has nothing to do with the seasons. Yet, whether or not we feel sad due to lack of sunshine, or caused by a difficult period in our life, natural remedies still work.


One of the biggest natural remedies is our inclination to allow the Light in. Have you ever felt blue and out of sorts, but wanted to do little to nothing to help yourself? If you have, you are not alone. This is all about your vibration in the moment. Sadness has a very low vibration to it. Like attracts like. Those of us who feel sad, don’t exactly want to put our dancing shoes on and go out to be the life of the party somewhere. At those times, it seems we’d rather be alone and be miserable.


Before we can switch gears, there needs to be conscious acknowledgement of being willing to allow the breath of change in. There needs to be a personal desire to “decide” to want to be happy. You are the ruler of your universe. If you want to stay sad, miserable, or depressed, no amount of coercing, manipulation, or force of any kind, either internal nor external will get you to change your mind. Whatever you tell yourself goes. No one listens to you quite the way that you do.

But if you have had enough of feeling low, there IS something you can do that does not include taking drugs. If your doctor has prescribed medication for you on your journey to happiness, please do not stop taking them without your doctor’s approval. What this article is saying, is that whether you are or are not taking medication for this very real condition, these natural remedies will work. They work 100 percent of the time. They only do not work if you stop doing them.

The low ebb of life force can be brought into balance by strengthening it. Life force runs through our bodies like the tide, with an ebb and a flow. There are also things we can do to gain

You are made of Light, by the Light, for the Light.
You are made of Light, by the Light, for the Light.

greater benefit from attracting more good “flow” into our life. Sunshine is one way, but so is getting out-of-doors, even if the weather is bad. There is something about being in nature that is very therapeutic. The wind and the rain are wonderful cleansers of our auric field. Getting outdoors on a winter day, no matter how cold it is, even for just a few minutes.


But pay attention to your personal mantras. You may not even be aware of the negative self messaging system that might be so constant, you might not be aware of it, or think you have a choice over it. Absolutely none of these suggestions are going to work if you are subconsciously telling yourself they are not going to. Again, the key is in being willing to step of our your habit and comfort zone, (yes sadness can be your negative comfort zone).


Life affirming energies also come in through using all of your senses, like listening to uplifting music, aroma therapy like some cinnamon in boiling water on the stove, looking at beautiful pictures, and do not forget laughing. Did I say laughing? Who wants to laugh when you are sad? Yes, I said laughing, for no apparent reason. This might feel a bit strange at first, but if you want to feel better, start laughing. Go online and check out Laughing Yoga. You will find numerous places all over the world where this is practiced.




There are amazing benefits physically as well as psychologically to laughing:

There is a new field of study called gelotology which is exploring the benefits of laughter, including:

* lower blood pressure

* increased blood flow and oxygenation of the blood

* give a workout to the diaphragm, abdominal, respiratory, facial, leg and back muscles

* reduce certain stress hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline

* increase the response of tumor and disease killing cells, such as Gamma interferon and T-cells

* defend against respiratory infections, reducing  frequency of colds, by immunoglubon in saliva

* increase memory and learning, at John Hopkins University Medical School, humor during instruction led to higher test scores

* improve alertness, creativity and memory

Dr. Madan Kataria, a physician from Mumbai, India is the founder of Laughter Yoga and launched the first Laughter Club at a park on March 13, 1995. He combines unconditional laughter with yogic breathing. Anyone can laugh for no reason, without relying on humor, jokes or comedy. The concept of Laughter Yoga is based on the scientific fact that the body cannot differentiate between fake and real laughter. The physiological and psychological benefits are the same.

* William F Fry M.D., of Stanford University, says that humor and creativity work in similar ways. By creating relationships between two disconnected items, we engage both sides of the brain.

Laughing sessions each day results in positive energy and a hopeful attitude, making it easier to deal with every day stress and relieves depression. Laughter also has a beneficial effect on the immune system. Laughter has a higher vibration that sickness and depression. Our bodies naturally gravitate to the state of homeostasis when possible. There is really a vibration to vibration. Laughter “shakes loose” stuck energies. After a session of laughter, people have the sense of feeling lighter than air.

People going through cancer treatments or who have chronic illness, are often told to laugh, watch funny movies and concentrate on the lighter side of things as much as they can. Positive outlook and moments of laughter help to lift not only mood, but also has a beneficial effect on the system as a whole. Some studies suggest not viewing any of the darker, more negative TV shows and movies, to keep energy up, and avoid the excess cortisol and adrenaline in the body, which create undo stress.

Laughter Clubs and Laughter Yoga groups are gaining popularity. There are no negative side effects to laughter, unless our faces hurts too much from laughing.

In the year 2000, nearly 10,000 people laughed together in Copenhagen, Denmark to set a Guinness Book Record.

The first Sunday in May is World Laughter Day. Find some friends and laugh away.

“The people who have walked in darkness have seen a great light. Upon those who dwelt in the land of gloom a great light has shone,” Isaiah 9:1. This Light shines in you and me.

“The Light shines on in darkness, a darkness that does not overcome it,” (John 1:5) Bring in Light where ever you are. Breath in Light with every breath. Find the Lighter side of everything. Be the Light and sadness will have no place to be.


When Things Go Wrong

We hear about prayer and meditation, increasing the love, manifesting our dreams, and laughter as the best medicine. But sometimes the reality is we or someone we love is fighting

Sometimes things can go very wrong. What are you going to do?

through illness, we’ve lost our job, there’s no food in the house, and the car needs tires. What do we do when things go wrong? We can be tempted to say, “The reality is, life sucks!”

Yes, life sucks sometimes. We get sick. We get fired. We go bankrupt. But this is not the end. This is a challenge so that we can authentically choose how we want to live our life. The key is, whether there is calm, or there is storm, and life will have both; we have a choice. How do we choose to live our reality from here on?

Keep in mind, you can call it reality, or from a different perspective on the same subject, you can call it an opportunity. It just as well can be an opportunity for you to shine with a creative solution, in peace, love and joy.

What do you choose to focus on, the problem or the solution?

It is necessary to take stock, look the problem squarely in the eye, and see what to do from there. But to continually only look at the problem, worry about the problem, only talk about the problem, is a very narrow view of reality. And it is actually not the entire truth. The truth has two sides for the whole picture. To only look at one side of the issue is to have a skewed view of perception.

If you choose to get depressed and stay depressed, then you can use your freedom to to stay stuck in the “poor me’s.” That is your choice. You can use your freedom to create anything you want. But if you want a way out of the current problem, seek the next highest vibration, the next lighter thought, the next positive step you could take.

Now is not forever.

Sometimes what seems to be the problem, turns out to be the greatest blessing in disguise. Drop any and all fear. Walk with your head held high with your eyes wide open. Make a plan, and a secondary plan, and as many plans as you need. There is nothing you cannot handle. Remember you are never alone. Invite in Divine Inspiration, God’s holy spirit. Ask for God’s Divine Guidance if you need it, but not as a victim, as a co-creator of your reality, because it will be through your hands that the God will work. Yours are the only hands that God has to work with here on Earth at this time. Unite your good intentions through prayer, with the work of the holy spirit.

Focusing on solutions of peace and joy are possible for every individual, social, civic, political, educational and religious group. When you breathe, breathe in peace, joy and love. When you walk, walk with peace, joy and love. When you move, move with peace, joy and love. Integrate. Integrate all the moments of your life, the good and the not so good. Bring peace, joy and love to it all.

This is how we will leave our positive footprint on the Earth.