Do You Own Things Or Do Things Own You? Repost

change is goodPossessions are a 2 way street. We can own possessions, and they can own us. At first this is obvious. We have carefully and often painstakingly selected the things we have. We have chosen the things in our home, including our home, and things all around us, on purpose. These things serve a purpose, even if that purpose is to make us feel good by looking at the art of it, or feel good by being in and around these things. But when do things stop serving us, and we start serving things?

This is a good question to ask ourselves from time to time; because it is by the very nature of time that things begin to own us. It is almost as if our things begin to take a life of their own on, require cleaning or maintenance, and demand replenishing. Our things can even begin vying for our affection, and can consume our every thought, if we are not conscious of it. Things need protection. The more they shine, or grow in value, not only do we want them, so do others. Then we transform from taking care of our things, to safe guarding our things, which is an entirely different matter.

When we recognize that we are serving our things, more than they are serving us, we lose focus of what is really important in our lives. Why do we have the things we have? Do we want to keep up with the Jones’, peer pressure, or for appearances’ sake? Are we hoarders?

The remedy is simple. Like most problems of life, decision is the answer. Indecision is the complication. Decide to solve this problem, unless you like being a slave to your things.

Begin. Begin anywhere. Begin throwing away everything broken, or torn. Get a dumpster. If we didn’t wear it last year we won’t wear it this year. Give away everything that does not serve us. Donate to humanitarian causes to help the poor among us. Go through your things, again and again.

When we streamline our life, then things will not own us. Our homes will not own us. Debt will not own us.

Being debt free is freedom.

Being item free is freedom.

Being free is freedom.

When we are free, we can truly reassess what is important to us, without the clouded vision of false values.

Your Mind ~ Body ~ Spirit Health Tripod

This is my ten year anniversary of serving the world as a holistic health counselor/practitioner, which

Does your mental, physical or spiritual health look like this?

Does your mental, physical or spiritual health look like this?

includes mental, physical and spiritual health. This is a lifelong, international certification. Although retired, I continue my work through this blog to touch everyone’s life, wherever you are, in every situation you find yourself. I view mind, body, spirit healing like a tripod. Without health in all three areas, “the tripod” (your life), falls apart, or is tilted one way or another.

My work is person centered rather than technically oriented, and focuses on phychological health, Bibles-based consciousness, human possibilities, and challenges of body, mind and spiritual development. We are created with a mind, a body and a spirit. We need to take care of all three to be fully human. It is irresponsible to only take care of any one of these dimensions of ourselves, while ignoring the other two. It is also irresponsible and short sighted to only take care of two of these dimensions, while simultaneously denying the other aspect of ourselves, as if we can live with out it, mentally, physically or spiritually.

We can’t, successfully anyway. Questions still remain about that which we are denying, and they keep cropping up.

Sometimes we like to live in denial. We do not like pain. We try to avoid it. We look for short cuts. That’s understandable. What tends to happen, though, with the area we are suppressing, is that the part of life we are denying, keeps popping back up, like trying to hold a submerged beach ball under the water, popping up when we least expect it. And don’t you know it, our mental health, or our physical health, or our spiritual health issue keeps calling four our attention until we address it, one way or another. Denying it, or lying to ourselves does not make it go away. Denying truth makes the truth scream all the louder.

Other times, we think we have a great understanding of ourselves. Then we get a new piece of information which changes things, or our viewpoint. This discovery matters. Pay attention, even if we previously thought we had all the answers.

While denying issues with our mental and physical health does happen, today it happens on a grander scale in our spiritual journey. There are so many false religious notions out there. The placebos just are not the same as the solid spiritual food found in the Bible. It is only after we have tried all the more enticing New Age or other spiritual thoughts, that we find they do not even hold a candle to the truth found in the Bible, the most popular book bought, every year.

Following the advice found in the Bible will not only bring spiritual health back in line, it will often bring the mental and physical health back in line as well. This is an amazing puzzle piece that restores character development, self esteem, and positive thinking when we realize just how very loved we truly are. When we trust in God instead of ourselves, stress gets diminished, resulting in less migraine headaches, less ulcers, less panic attacks, and whatever else ails us mentally or physically. Don’t trade the truth for a lie.

In this life we are not promised to live forever. I have never met, nor heard of anyone who has lived forever, mentally, physically or spiritually. But while we are here, it is good to re-connect, re-align or re-affirm our relation with the good God who made us and everything else, using the Bible as our backbone. That way, we have a firm foundation from which we can build our personal mental, physical, spiritual tripod, and enjoy life to the fullest while we are here. For further spiritual help, check out

Illegal Immigrants ~ Democracy ~ Freedom ~ Dignity Of The Human Race

Here in the United States of America, the Fourth of July, marks the day that our forefathers were no longer illegal immigrants coming from another land, a day

An American Fourth of July means taking the oath of citizenship, like Nuria Mohamed from Ethiopia. (Seattle Washington) The United States of America is the land of freedom, democracy endowed with certain unalienable rights for all human beings.

they paid a dear price for our freedom from another country, enabling us to live in democracy today, and honoring the dignity of human beings that originated from across the sea. It didn’t matter if they came from Mexico, Canada, South America, Africa or any other country in the world. Our forefathers came here from England, and they did not have immigration papers.

What is the difference between most illegal immigrants of today, compared to your grandparents, great-grandparents and other ancestors in your own family tree?


Human beings from every country are human beings. Our forefathers sought a better life for their families, just like those in the world today are seeking to better their lives. We need to remember to keep the dignity of all human persons intact as we deal with the now complicated issue of illegal immigration.

The complication in our current immigration laws arises from our sense of entitlement, of wanting to keep people out, of trying to do the impossible, of trying to close our borders. There has to be a humane and organized way to safely allow people to become legal United States citizens that does not make it easier for current illegal immigrants to side-step this issue.

Yes, our country needs to be safe, and the laws of our land must be followed. Obviously this goes for everyone in this country, legal citizens and illegal aliens. Also, in this country, we believe that people are innocent before they are proven guilty, no matter what the color of our skin, or our ethnic background.

Why are we more concerned about the Mexican border of the United Sates than the border we share with Canada, or any coastal border? We need to recognize and acknowledge our prejudices in order to heal our nation.

Map of trafficking of females globally.Some point to crime, occurring at our southern border. The tophuman trafficking 2 three illegal activities worldwide are drug trafficking, gun trafficking, and human trafficking. All crime needs to be legally and humanely dealt with. But prejudice is also a crime against humanity, and far more of us are guilty of that.

This is a land of democracy. United States citizens value freedom of speech, freedom of religion, freedom of the press, freedom to peaceably assemble, and freedom to petition the government among other rights in this great nation.

We need to also champion the fair treatment of illegal immigrants and come up with a better plan for our country, and treat all people with the right to human dignity.

If Human Life Begins At Conception, What About The Unused Fertilized Human Embryos In The Invetro-Fertilization Process?

The following article is from: and was posted on August 31, 2012, but this question must be asked again. It is something to be considered in the upcoming election with the Pro-Life / Pro-Choice debates bound to surface yet again.

The Sanctity of Human Life Act was sponsored by 55 people including Paul Ryan of Wisconsin, Mitt Romney’s running mate, and Rep. Todd Akin who has perhaps ruined his bid for the Senate in Missouri by saying when a woman is raped her body most of the time will keep itself from getting pregnant. He referred to “legitimate rape.”

As I understand it a clarification was deemed needed by the sponsors since we are guaranteed life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness by the Constitution.
It is this “life” guarantee that is the impetus of the bill to enact an amendment to the constitution.

This bill would make it law “To provide that human life shall be deemed to begin with fertilization.”
Sounds pretty simple , right?
It appears that it would, if passed, make abortion of any kind against the constitution, to use unborn embryos and the Constitution to attract the Catholic vote.

It would make abortion legally murder. This could actually make it a jailing offense for women who get an abortion or doctors who perform them, or in some state the death penalty.
Seems as if someone didn’t think far enough. Sure there are a lot of people who consider abortion murder already and would love it to be a Constitutional guarantee.

I’m not even talking about abortion now.

Think of this. The number of in vitro fertilization births since its inception is 45,000 babies. The way this happens is that several eggs from a woman are fertilized by a man’s sperm in a Petri dish. One or some are implanted in the woman’s uterus. Some may be frozen for future use by the woman, or in research, AND THE REST ARE THOWN AWAY.
This means that if Ryan’s bill passes at least 90,000  people including Mitt Romney’s son whose baby was the product of IVF, and  probably as many doctors would be guilty of murder.

Are You Safe? Are You Safe In Your Relationships? How To Protect Yourself Against Emotional Blackmail, Bullying, Threats And Violence In Your Personal And Social Circles ~ Recognizing Personality Disorders ~ When And When Not To Use Tolerance ~ Repost

Rule #1: MAKE SURE YOU ARE SAFE. National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-7233

Rule #2: MAKE SURE YOU ARE SAFE. National Domestic Violence TTY Hotline 800-787-3224

Rule #3: MAKE SURE YOU ARE SAFE. Abuse Victim Hotline by state

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Do you feel safe? Do you feel safe in all your relationships? Do feel safe in your home? Do you feel safe at your employment? Do you feel safe in your social circles, friendships, affiliations, clubs, including social media? Do you feel safe when you are alone?

Do you feel unsafe in some situations? Do you feel unsafe around certain people? Do you feel threatened or intimidated by anyone physically, financially, morally, mentally, legally or even spiritually?

It is most important to feel safe in your own skin, safe in your own mind, and safe in your own soul. It is also important to be safe in this one world we all share.

Much has been written about promoting tolerance, getting along, defusing situations, and compromising for the greater good that can be experienced in this beautiful and amazing life. But those of us who have more tender mental constitutions, and weaker willed individuals can be bullied beyond belief by strong personalities, social outlaws, scams, louder and more demonstrative characters, bowling over any and all attempts that might possibly arrive at a healed and more whole relationship.

Unfortunately we live in a world where we share space with criminally insane people, those who break any and all laws. We need to make sure we are safe. Gone are the days of innocent schools, safe airports, public places, picking up hitchhikers, and trusting strangers. Perhaps with the volume of people on the planet at this time, there are simply more people, making the odds of manipulating con artists, and those who would hurt us exponentially greater.

These are lessons school children learn, how to get along. But sometimes we carry this attempt at normal too far, but trying to apply tolerance and compromise to abusive and dysfunctional relationships, when we really should be running for the hills. We need to learn when to walk away, and when to run.

Your feelings and emotions are your accurate, internal measure of what you should do next. Emotional abuse feels bad, makes you nauseous, gives you anxiety attacks, with a generalized feeling of malaise, depression and low energy. The intensity of your feelings and emotions is a signal that things need to change if you are going to re-gain all areas of your health.

There is never any reason to tolerate physical, mental/emotional abuse, or bullying as a normal behavior. This seems like it is common sense, but it is not that easy to the person who is being physically abused, emotionally blackmailed, and threatened by law suits or any other kind of manipulation. Sometimes we can feel like we do not want to make a public scene in order to make a bad situation stop. The longer bullies bully their victim, the more debilitating fear cripples the victim. Domestic violence, like every other kind of violence, is never OK under any circumstance.

Freedom comes when you gather your courage, and STAND UP. Stand up for yourself, speak out to someone you can trust. Do not remain silent. Silence is not golden. Silence is deadly, literally. Bullies do not go away. Bullies get stronger the longer they stay at it. The longer a bully stays a bully, the more brazen they get, and the more their bullying tactics escalate.

An important point to make here is to realize that people with destructive personality disorders most often look just the same as you and me. Mass murderers do not look like mass murdereers. They look like regular people, for the most part. Abusive partners also dress in expensive clothing, can be financially successful, and have no tell-tale marks that make them stand out from no-abusive partners. They might even appear to have wide circles of “friends” around them, but the truth is, these are usually superficial trophies. Do not be intimated by any of this. This presentation of how bullies portray themselves is a facade. However, the vengeance the bully feels is very real, and must be dealt with, not ignored.

The question is how to stand up and deal with bullies, emotional blackmail, and threats of mental, emotional and physical abuse. Again, go by how you feel. You need to get to a safe place on all levels: mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially. If you feel unsafe addressing these problems yourself, seek immediate help from a counselor, police, fire or shelter. Do not wait. Your health and well-being depend on getting help not only for yourself, but also for the abuser.

Manipulating behaviors tend to show up ever so subtly in the earlier days of the relationship, but can also manifest later in the relationship if stressors change. Pay attention. Pay attention to how you feel when certain things happen. You might even keep a journal of your feelings, if you feel safe to do so.

The important thing to know is there is no tolerance for abusive behaviors. Verbal abuse can be even more detrimental to the health and well-being of children, spouses, and everyone living or working under the same roof.

Sometimes abusive behaviors manifest over time, after the relationship is well-established. The person being abused knows that even the abusing person has a good side from time to time, and at the good times, has earned their love. The person being abused wonders if they have done or said something to trigger the abuse. Most often the person receiving the abuse is told it is their fault that the abuser is abusing. Know this is not true.

Everyone is in charge of their own feelings, emotions and actions. There is no way you are ever in charge of the abuser’s feelings, emotions or actions no matter what has happened.

You count.

You matter.

You are beautiful, and I am so very glad you are here.

Liberating Self Imposed Victimhood And Martyrdom

Some of us come into our own at an early age, knowing just who we are with all of our strengths and our weaknesses. Others of us come into this internal and

You are not a victim, nor a martyr, unless you choose to be. You have a choice.

external knowing later in life, while some of us carry on to the end, never really knowing all the dimensions of what makes us tick, or what our mission in this lifetime is. There are so many factors that shape a person, his or her emotional self, personality and personal likes and dislikes, religious and personal beliefs, self-esteem and personal empowerment issues.

Self-esteem, like every other human trait mentioned here, is a living, pulsating energy. Your self-esteem is a living entity, fed every minute of every day by your own thoughts, in addition to the thoughts and attitudes of those who raised you, the schools you went to, the friends and people of influence around you, and the attitudes regarding the value of life you have finally adopted.

What role do you play in your own life?

Do you like how you are feeling?

Your feelings are key to assessing where you are at in your personal development. Denying your feelings is a sign of weakness, not strength.

Everyone from time to time feels empowered. On occasion, we find ourselves in situations of disempowerment. This is the human condition. Two people can grow up in similar situations, yet, one person comes out strong, while the other person comes out of the same set of circumstances emotionally scarred by taking on the role of victim or martyr that he or she has chosen to assume. Why is this?

In order for self-esteem to fully blossom, we need to pull out the noxious weeds of self-imposed victimhood and martyrdom. Some of us cling to these dysfunctions as if they are badges of accomplishment to be worn into every life situation. We could succeed if it were not for this, that, or the other thing that stopped us. Recognize all seeds of negative self-messaging the second it comes to mind.

When bad things happen to us in our lives, we have two choices, not just one. The worse choice we can make is to succumb to the lower sense of self, then act out the role of being a victim, as “woe is me,” that of living out our life as a martyr. The best choice we can make is to identify with our higher self, recognizing that we are a beautiful work of creation.

Do not allow yourself to ever think, agree or believe negative messages about yourself. Accept yourself, right where you are, with all of the history and happenings that have ever happened to you. If there is something about yourself you wish to change for the better, then become aware and consciously work on that.

Liberate yourself from self-imposed negativity. Yes, you can. You are not a victim unless you want to be. You are not a martyr unless you choose to take that role on. But why would you do either? Often people choose these roles of dysfunction because they have learned they can manipulate others by doing so. It is good to take stock of our true motives. Accept who you are now, and consciously grow in the reality that you are worthy.