Let Them


“Let them” is a concept that has taken me a long time to learn, and sometimes it’s still difficult to put into practice. I used to tolerate too much because I didn’t want to lose people. But I learned the hard way if they were really my people they would never treat me like that. Don’t make the mistake of being so understanding that you overlook the fact that you’re being repeatedly disrespected.

Let them be upset.

Let them judge you.

Let them misunderstand you.

Let them gossip about you.

Let them ignore you.

Let them be “right.”

Let them doubt you.

Let them not like you.

Let them not speak to you.

Let them run your name in the ground.

Let them make you out to be the villain.

Whatever it is that people want to say about you, let them!

Kindly step aside and LET THEM.

The hard truth is they know how much they are hurting you, and they simply don’t care. They did it knowing it might cause them to lose you, and they chose to do it anyway. People who love you care about how they make you feel. Period. The end. Let them go.

There will be people who would rather lose you than be honest about what they’ve done. Let them go.

The lack of respect was the closure.

The lack of empathy was the closure.

The lack of appreciation was the closure.

The lack of trust was the closure.

The lack of self awareness was the closure.

The lack of honesty was the closure.

The lack of accountability was the closure.

The lack of LOVE was the closure.

Let them go.

Forgiveness takes one. Reconciliation takes two. If they are not sorry, let them go. If they project, minimize, deflect, and blameshift every time you express how they’ve hurt you, let them go.

What we allow is what we will live. Acceptance is not indifference. You can still be kind. You can still love them deeply. But love them from the distance they created with their words and actions. Boundaries help protect your space and shield you from their hurtful behavior.

You don’t need to tell your side of the story. You are a Spark of Eternal Universal Life Force Energy, what some call God. You are Love personified. This Love, your I Am Presence, is deeply aware of you and all involved. You are complete and whole as you are in this exact moment. Let   them go.

It’s taken me a long time to get here. So many sleepless nights, countless tears, and trying to manage a range of emotions filled with anger, disappointment, confusion, and deep hurt. Lots of self reflection, deep prayer, and seeking guidance from those much wiser than me.

If you are struggling with this please know you are not alone. We will never understand why hurt people hurt people. But we can do the hard work to grow ourselves. Because healed people do in fact heal people.

Don’t you dare let them steal your joy.

Don’t you dare let them steal your light.

Don’t you dare let them steal your peace.

You are in control of that.

Hold tight to what you can control and release your grip on what you can’t control.

Let them go.

Namaste

Points to Ponder ~ Contributed by Author and Award-Winning Columnist John T. Hourihan, Jr.


This picture is of John, when we were living in Hawaii.

The following is written by John T. Hourihan, Jr.:

“So, here’s what I have found.

“Science says energy always was, always will be, since it cannot be created nor destroyed. Religion says God always was always will be.

“Since there is currently thought, there had to have been a first thought.

“Energy became aware of itself as in the “I am that I am,” and the “I think therefore I am” statements. Becoming aware of itself is wisdom. Once it had its first thought, it most likely felt a self-satisfaction at being alive, and that became the feeling we now call love.

“Ancient religions personified that to be the God of all, (energy) Sophia (wisdom) and Christ (love).

“That is what religion is, the personification of science.

“Matter is energy at a slower vibration. As a direct result of E=MC2, energy, science has recently found, can create matter.

“So, that God (energy) created everything (matter) is correct.

“But ancient scriptures say that Sophia (wisdom) created life on Earth without Christ (love). That is totally understandable, now. But it wasn’t understandable many tens of thousands of years ago.

“It was said then that Sophia called her creation (Yaldabaoth) from the water and taught him to stand up on land, but her creation was not yet truly alive.

“With the addition of love, it would become a whole living human.

“It (Yaldabaoth) created three offspring, who created multiple entities, that would in turn create humans. So, to say God created us is actually true in a roundabout way, but the original “God” that created the universes was not the direct creator of humankind.

“The new humans were driven by the basic instincts of self-preservation, propagation of the species, and preservation of the species.

“The last is love or empathy.

“What would the world look like if we lost that last part, if we only thought about ourselves? Try to remember, it was also said early in civilization that, “My Spirit shall not abide in man forever, for he is flesh: his days shall be 120 years.” (Genesis 6:3)

“It appears we have lost what makes us human beings. That is empathy.

“Why should I care about others? I work hard and take care of myself. They can do the same thing.” Or “send those damn illegal immigrants back where they came from. This is our piece of the Earth.”

“These statements, and others like them, are the personification of having lost the love and empathy Christ gave us, to make us whole.

“Are we losing our humanity?

“Have we already lost it?” John asks.

John writes with humor, reality, and deep insight. The Baltimore Catechism series begins with John as a six-year-old attempting to go by all the rules set by the church he knew which is a paradox to the reality he sees. Each book in this series continues as his experiences do.

John’s books are available anywhere books are sold:

The picture on the cover is the actual St. Mary’s Grammer School in Milford where John attended.

These next two books are in a second publication with a new publisher and are under contract with Blue Fortune Enterprises LLC:

BEYOND THE FENCE, subtitled, Converging Memoirs, was written together with John’s daughter, Amanda Eppley:

It is interesting to note that before the following book was published, major league baseball was not using the shift in the field, based on the batter’s hitting stats. This book is a helpful aid for all baseball coaches for all ages of players.

There are also two books currently only available on Kindle:

John and I continue learning new information every day. Realize when information is banned and censored, or book banning is thought to be good for humanity, you are in a cult-like group.

For example, the New Testament only sheds light on the first 12 years of the life of Jesus in his childhood and his years from 30-33, for a total of 15 years. Wouldn’t you like to know what Jesus said and did in his other 18 years, from his ages 12-30?

Who would want you to not know this?

John and I share our wealth of knowledge and experiences in our books. My books are listed on the right side of this blog.

God Bless Everyone Everywhere

Fourth Week of Advent Meditation #1


Although we do not know the exact date of the birth of Jesus Christ, Son of God, the Church has been counting down these four weeks before Christmas in the Advent Season to celebrate just that. This week we are in the fourth and final week preparing our hearts and minds for not only commemorating the birth of our Lord and Savior of all humankind, but also brings to mind our preparation for his second coming as he foretold in Matthew 24:29-31.

MEDITATION:

God our Father in heaven, Creator of the earth, galaxies, universes, and all powers, angels and archangels; be with us as we wait and again to celebrate the gift of your presence with us, in the birth of Jesus of Nazareth. We recall the birth of Jesus at Bethlehem, when Mary and Joseph welcomed him into the world.

The angels sang hymns of glory, and the shepherds knelt before the manger in awe and adoration. In faith we look forward to the Jesus’ coming in glory at the end of time, when he will gather us into his kingdom of love and peace. Help us to be ready, waiting with joyful hearts, to welcome Jesus who loves us so much.

Prepare our hearts to celebrate his coming this Christmas. Give us strength to live in peace with everyone, especially those closest to us. We thank you for being with our family, neighbors and friends.

If we have hurt anyone, help us make amends. Help us also to forgive anyone who may have hurt us. May the flame of the light of the four advent candles also ignite love in our hearts, the love that only you can give.

Let us seek reconciliation with God, through Jesus this Advent Season, so that nothing stands between us and the Good God who gave us our life.

God Bless