PRIDE MONTH ~ LEVITICUS CONSIDERATIONS


Niagara Falls celebrating Pride Month

I know we were all reminded of these things when the television series West Wing first aired, but June being PRIDE MONTH, I thought it would be good to have answers ready for those who do not love as Jesus says to love, since Jesus Christ NEVER said anything against homosexuality. Opponents to gender equality cite the Bible, specifically the Old Testament book of Leviticus, as their reason and justification for hate.

Jesus Christ did give us a simple rule to follow, the Golden Rule, “Do unto others what you would want them to do to you.”

The following is a compilation from many sources regarding the Old Testament book of Leviticus:

Leviticus and Paul say homosexuality is an abomination. It is, they say, a sin and should be punished. “It is in the Bible,” you say.  But there is a catch. The following rules are also in the Bible, and don’t get me started on the rules on our side of the covenant with God found in the Temple Scroll.

1. Leviticus 25:44 states that I may possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighboring nations.

2. I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her?

3. I know that I am allowed no contact with a woman while she is in her period of Menstrual uncleanliness – Lev.15: 19-24.

4. When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odour for the Lord – Lev.1:9.

5. I have a neighbor who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2 clearly states he should be put to death.

6. The Bible says eating shellfish is an abomination, Lev. 11:10. Is it a lesser abomination than homosexuality?

7. Lev. 21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight.

8. Can we men get our hair trimmed, including the hair around their temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev. 19:27. And is punishable by death.

9. I know from Lev. 11:6-8 that touching the skin of a dead pig makes me unclean, but may I still play football if I wear gloves?

10. If you own a farm, you violate Lev.19:19 by planting two different crops in the same field.

11. It is a stonable offense if a woman wears garments made of two different kinds of thread (cotton/polyester blend).

12. Also if you blaspheme, Leviticus says. You should be stoned to death by the entire community. (Lev.24:10-16).

13 Leviticus also says if you sleep with your in-laws you must be stoned to death. (Lev. 20:14)

Are you sure you want to hang your hat on, “homosexuality is wrong because Leviticus says so?”

Do you really want to adhere to the laws of Leviticus, even though they say you are not to eat a rare hamburger or steak, or put tattoos on your body? And here’s one I have not seen in Christian circles, Leviticus says it is a law that you should stand in respect in the presence of the aged.

Namaste

Gender Equality ~ Social Maturity Is In The Sandbox


Equality has no gender. It is something we are born with. No one in this world gives anyone else equality. Equality is God-given because we are made in the image and likeness of God regardless of belief system. Social systems in every corner of the world that have usurped personal and social power through both just and unjust means are not the end of the journey of social consciousness.

The value of a person does not depend on someone else’s opinion. The value of a person is within the person, something no one else can know. We can get glimpses of what makes a person tick by listening to their words and getting a better understanding by the actions they take. Still, the onus, the value of who the individual is, in totality, belongs to the individual.

Let us not forget that Spirit, Christ, exists within each and every person, not on the conditions one person places upon another. We have free will to wake up to this fact, or to deny this fact, but personal opinions have little bearing on the life of the Spirit/Christ within each one. It is the animating force of the individual life, without which we cease to be.

“What is man that You think of him, And a son of man that You are concerned about him?” New American Standard Bible

Yes, Almighty God loves and cares for all of us sons and daughters. How we choose to weave the tapestry of our lives is wonderous for all of us. No one needs anyone else’s permission to live their life the best way they see fit.

Who individuals are in their unique presentation of themselves is no reason for others to drum up drama regarding their own ignorant opinions. More education is required in this life. Personal growth and development is part of that.

Social growth and development is equally important for the success of society, otherwise social growth leans on the flimsy and dysfunctional foundation of racism, xenophobia, and a host of other hate issues.

Gender is not a religious agenda item. All counseling issues do not find their remedies in arcane remedies known to mankind many thousands of years ago. Healing the conscience of society requires up-to-date knowledge based on human wellness rather than misinformation.

It will be a glorious day when all of humanity reaches higher understanding of unity where labeling people one way or another will be seen as harmful. I foresee the day when it will be unnecessary for census forms to label whether people are male, female, Caucasian, black, Latino, or any other variety of humanity, including gay, straight, gender fluid, bisexual, transgender, or every other classification of personhood. Employment opportunities will not be able to hold prejudices against new hires, nor will the bigoted opinions of others hold others back. It will not be any reason for discussion, because the worth of the person depends on their own achievements, as opposed to hollow opinions.

All societies are working towards the betterment of humanity, whether covert or out in full view of the eyes of the world. Trying to hold humanity down to the level of corrupt, racist, and powerful tyrants results with the same ending as the beachball being submerged underwater. It is only a matter of time that the beachball resurfaces to the top with the force and truth of what is taking place. Denying reality only works for so long. Oppression of people only works for so long. Truth always finds a way no matter how long it takes.

Stay true to who you are. You cannot do otherwise. All humanity is working on themselves in one way or another, through continuing education, creative endeavors, meaningful relationships, rewarding employment, positive social action, and sharing life with others.

God Bless Everyone Everywhere

Indigo Children Living Techincolor Lives


The human family is hurting itself by all the labels we place upon each other. Labeling and putting humans not like us in boxes is the system we know. It is the system we judge by, consciously or unconsciously. What do we do with the non-conformists, like Indigo Children living technicolor lives?

Society is changing, or is it?

The labeling system that has served humanity for generations is becoming obsolete. If we do not keep up, we will be out of step with the future. This is not about judging, or being right or wrong. This is not about supressing the voice of the other, which we do not want to hear.

Why don’t these very unique beings see what we see, and do things the conventional way?

Indigo Children, for lack of a better term of judging this supposedly relatively new breed of people, operate under a new code, an accelorated understanding of personhood. Actually they have been with us since the dawn of Creation, or the Big Bang as some say. However our understanding can grasp the beginning of people, that is how long Indigo Children can trace their beginning to.

At the beginning of time and thought-substance into matter, beings were first androgynous, both male and female. We often forget this part of human pre-history. It is merely a placement of geography whether we are black or white, or any other difference our physical bodies manifest. Some prideful egos revolt at this reality.

Why is this obviously different human presence making its appearance in our families at this time?

While it may seem that Indigo Children have recently dropped from the sky, so to speak, they have been with us for eons. We simply have not paid them attention, nor given them the accolades they deserved at the time. They have been our artists, our scultpures, our mathematicians, our architects and the like. It is only in hindsight that we give them the just praises, awards and prestige they deseve.

We have not been paying enough attention to the important aspects of what being fully human means to humanity as a whole. Humanity is not represented by only being:

white
straight
male
having blue eyes
blonde hair
English (or any other conquering, dominating people)
rich
powerful
tall
ego-driven

Is it a matter of parenting? No. We need to wake up to reality.

How do we determine (judge) who are the:

worthy ones?
less than human ones?
the best generation of people born at a certain time?
generation not to be trusted?
safe ones we can be around?
ones we have to watch out for?
ones we can trust?
ones who are like us?
ones who think like us?

Some of us are a different color, creed, ethnicity, belief system, language, age, ability and, god forbid, a non-descript gender. It is as if all these differences made up some quality or lack of quality of the height of humanity in and of itself.

Have you ever thought that perhaps these “menacing butterflies” of human beings who do not conform to specific gender roles, for example, are actually living loving lives in their journey of self discovery void of labels, as we all should? Imagine living your life freely, without looking through the lenses of the opinion and labels of others to determine what you should or should not do.

How do you feel when lables are placed on you?
How do you feel when people say you are too:

trouble making?
like a church mouse?
loud?
soft?
different?
lazy?
busy?
shy?
talkative?
quiet?
judgmental?
much like a doormat?
hard to get along with?
easy to get along with?

The less-evolved, lower forms of humanity sometimes turn to hate crimes, as if by elimiating the proposed menace, the “problem” will go away. Nothing could be further from the truth. Whether it is a war for any reason, in any country, it is never possible to kill enough of the “enemy” to eliminate the DNA within all of humankind. You and I carry this human DNA within the physical structure of our human bodies. This is normal. It is the hateful way we treat each other at times that is not normal.

The higher evolutions of human kind have nothing to do with gender, ethnicity, skin color, age, creed, ability nor disability. Every human being has something to offer to the rest of us.

Arrogance coupled with blind and/or willful ignorance is one of the lowest levels humanity often sinks to in the labeling game of determining who is important and who is not. The solution to ignorance is education, admitting we do not know everything there is to know about life, or certain situations. Simply thinking we know everything about everyone and every thing ought to be the red flag that we really do not know everything there is to know about everyone who is different from us, or thinks differently from us.

Keep in mind that Jesus said the kingdom of God is within us, in Luke 17:21. The Hebrew, Greek, English Interlinear Bible translates the original writing to “within you,” not “among you” as some bibles changed the translation to. Most modern bibles are now correcting this misinformation back to the original words of Jesus.

Indigo Children have the kingdom of God within them also. They always have. Jesus made no exclusions. Humankind did, but Jesus did not. This means the kingdom of God is also within everyone who identifies as an Indogi Child, or who is in the LGBTQ communities, Autistic communities, and every other difference people have manufactured as being “different” from other, less-evolved humans.

Namaste
The God in Me recognizes the God in You.
Have a beautiful day!

Addressing Fear Amid COVID-19 Pandemic ~ Virtues Are The Solution


The human race on Earth is the only race there is on Earth

COVID-19 knows no bounds when it comes to differences in race, color, ethnicity, creed, financial status or gender. We must realize that on this planet, regardless of where you come from, on Earth, there is only one race, the human race.

Sometimes we try to hide our prejudices behind other reasons, to justify the positions we take politically, socially, financially, environmentally, religiously, or any other way we human beings use to suppress the voice of others. We are more alike than any difference we profess.

The root cause of prejudice is fear, not hatred. While certain groups may be extremely angry about an issue, the underlying cause of anger is fear. Why are we so afraid of other people, their belief system, their culture, their gender? We can promote what we what we believe, if we choose to do that with our free will, without tearing each other down. Think of how we respond to someone expressing a different viewpoint, or addressing uncomfortable issues such as COVID-19, immigration, homelessness and hungry children in our country and the world.

Fear knows no borders. When it comes to financial fears, for example, many fear that by sending the 20,000 ventilators currently in government storage to the 20,000 most sick from the COVID-19 pandemic in New York, there won’t be enough left for themselves. It is a money problem to some minds. This is a two-fold problem.

First, when we divide states and countries in the world into “us” and “them” categories; the rich and the poor; our side and their side, we have already lost the battle, not only with slowing the spread of the COVID-19 pandemic in our own back yard, but also with the loss of our humanity in society.

This is the second problem, when fear descends upon the minds of our rulers. Bidding wars between states and the government for sending life-saving medical equipment, demonstrates perfectly how we can begin to lose our sense of our humanity. Once we make money, finances and the economy the bottom line, which it is not, we lose our humanity in the decision making process. Yes, money, finances and the economy are important, but it is not as important as the people. At the end of all of our lives, no matter which continent you live on, you will not be able to take your money with you.

Fear promotes radical groups in any of the human categories mentioned. If we are truly serious about fixing our world, before we can build any bridges to repair the damage we have caused, and tear down the cages and the walls which we built due to fear of other human beings, we need to take immediate measures to join together, not tear apart, and eradicate the root cause of fear. It is not just fear of other human beings that is the current social problem; it is the fear that they will take all our money, our reservoirs of wealth, our political power, our land, our titles, etc.

The Theological Virtues of faith, hope and love are the remedy for those of us experiencing fear. The Cardinal Virtues of prudence, justice, fortitude and temperance are the solution to fear by politicians, those in finance, and by everyone else globally. The virtue of generosity is the solution for those blinded by greed. Practice the Golden Rule that Jesus taught, “Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you.”

Greed has become the new addiction in society all over the world. In the ordinary effort to get ahead in this life, to make sure there is enough food for our families, and places to rest our weary heads at the end of the day, and household products to get us through the days and weeks of social distancing, some of us are making the quick slide into greed, fueled by fear. It can happen so quickly that we do not even realize it has happened. In those moments we have lost sight of our humanity.

We have made great progress in this country and in the world. We should celebrate the strides we have made. But there is more to do with integrity, more to pray for, more to resolve, more to share, more to learn, more to understand, more to forgive, more to let go. It is not about being right, or wrong, or making others right or wrong. There is no way to make up for the loss of life through war, violence, bloodshed, or retaliation. Two wrongs do not make a right. We need to build bridges and tear down walls and cages for all people everywhere.

Despite all our unique differences, we all share this one beautiful planet. We are all born in the same way, we all breathe air while we are here, and we all die. We are all having a shared human experience. Our life is in our blood, without which we would cease to be. No one soul is better than any other soul on this planet, no matter what our pride (insane ego) might be telling us.

Let us recognize this place and time that we are all in. We can repair all of this, unless we have totally lost our humanity. Some of us are over the edge and need our assistance to get back to the real time work of caring for and protecting the most vulnerable among us. They need our prayers. Prayer is an extremely powerful tool at our disposal.

There is only one race on this planet.

It’s the human race.

We need to work together, across the globe, to do what is best for the everyone in every country. This effort begins with you and me, in our homes, families, neighborhoods, states, countries on this one planet that we call home. We need to be better people. It is contagious. It matters.

God Bless

The Virtue of Virtues ~ iUniverse Publishers


https://www.iuniverse.com/en/bookstore/bookdetails/809142-the-virtue-of-virtues

9781532094613_pap.inddWhen sex education classes were introduced into public school systems across the United States of America back in the 1990s, I had parents asking me to write a book to help parents and their sixth grade children, so they could have a more value-based teaching to present to their young ones. I also had a sixth grader coming through the school at that time, and other of my children to follow. I agreed and authored The Virtue of Virtues, which I taught at Sacred Heart of Jesus Parish in Hopedale, Massachusetts, in the Diocese of Worcester.

Some of the sex education textbooks I’d seen in public schools asked the sixth grade children when was the last time they had sex, and promoted products on the best condoms and gels to use for their own protection. While using the best condoms and the best gels might be beneficial to preventing them from getting certain diseases, the premise that all the sixth graders were having sex was inaccurate.

Schools across the country had Just Say No Programs to help students combat the drug and alcohol epidemic sweeping through schools of all kinds of socio-economic status. But when it came to underage kids being sexually active, there were no protections put in place for those children who did not want to have sex. Teaching about condoms, gels and abortions as the means to prevent unwanted pregnancies was apparently the way to go.

What about the sexually abused student? Would condoms, gels and abortions be the remedy for them if they got pregnant?

What about the 12-year-old girl or boy who did not want to have sex with another student, teacher, or other adult? Would condoms, gels and abortions be the remedy for these students as well?

Of course not.

I attended the next school council meeting in order to present parent concerns over these issues. However, peer pressure does not only stop with children in school. It became apparent that sex education classes were here to stay. What the school council did decide to do was to go along with the newly created Massachusetts Education Reform Act of 1993. The Town of Hopedale voted me in as one of the 2 parents in the town. On that civic board, I was voted in as co-chairperson along with the elementary school principal.

At the first board meeting, I suggested that part of the education reform ought to include a course on ethics to go along with the sex education program. In that way, children without a voice would be able to use the program (which was yet to be written) to better be able to stand up for themselves and not be pushed into going along with the crowd if they did not want to go along with them. The free will of the children was being usurped.

“We need to have a course on ethics to go along with the sex education program,” I said to the board.

“But whose ethics would we teach?” was the quick comeback from the school principal.

I realized at that moment that this public school would not allow certain ethics or particular kinds of morality to be taught in the public schools. They did teach not to steal other children’s lunch money, not to fight on the playground, and not to disrespect the teacher, but somehow teaching about the morality of protecting their own person as being private to each student was beyond the comprehension.

9781532094613_pap.inddThat’s when I knew had to write The Virtue of Virtues. It is a sixth-grade, virtue-based morality curriculum designed to be incorporated into existing CCD parish programs. The seven lessons may be taught once each month during the CCD year or in a seven-week block from October to December at the start of the CCD year. Both methods have proven to be successful.

Parents can also use this organized approach to teach virtues to their children, since The Virtue of Virtues may be taught one hour each night for one week, once a week for seven weeks, or once a month for seven months. Parents have the opportunity to teach their children individually or in a comfortable setting with other parents and children.

My job since 1977 to that point was writing for a newspaper, The Milford Daily NewsCover Back New (under the name Linda Kearsley), as a correspondent and feature story writer for the neighboring Town of Mendon. I decided to answer the six questions every reporter needs to ask for a complete story: What?, Why?, How?, When?, Who? and Where?.

The What? section of each chapter refers to a current day fiction story, which deals with the lesson theme, and is followed by the Why? section that asks questions. How? is a written activity. When? opens the scriptures for the students, while Who? illustrates the message is meant for them. Each lesson concludes with Where? calling students to act out their faith here and now.

This book is written with much love for our youth. Each of the seven lessons leads children to seek out God, who loves them, and to live out the virtues, as a way of returning their love for God.

The seven chapters are:

1. Theological Virtues
A. Faith
B. Hope
C. Love

2. Cardinal Virtues
A. Prudence
B. Justice
C. Fortitude
D. Temperance

3. Fruits Of The Holy Spirit
A. Charity (Love)
B. Joy
C. Peace
D. Patience
E. Kindness
F. Goodness
G. Endurance
H. Mildness
I. Faith
J. Modesty
K. Restraint
L. Chastity

4. Seven Capital Sins
A. Pride
B. Covetousness
C. Lust
D. Anger
E. Gluttony
F. Envy
G. Sloth

5. The Opposite Virtues
A. Humility
B. Generosity
C. Chastity
D. Meekness
E. Temperance
F. Brotherly Love
G. Diligence

6. Friendship
A. Mutual Respect
B. Sincerity
C. Loyalty
D. Faithfulness
E. Honesty
F. Purity
G. Self-esteem

7. Decision Making
A. Free Will
B. Coercion
C. Responsibility
D. Exploitation
E. Peer Pressure
F. Character

Teacher’s Objectives for each class are explained in the Appendix.

If there ever was a time when moral courage was on trial, it is today. We can do much to foster virtues in our youth, and in the process, strengthen these same virtues within ourselves. Virtues are the first stepping stones leading to mature character development.

Let us not shy away from teaching virtues to our children. Not one of us is perfect. We begin, or begin again, right where we are. Let us bloom where we are planted, in the garden of our homes, families, neighborhoods and parishes. This is a positive step we can take to instill wholesome goodness in a world in want and need of virtues.

God Bless

https://www.iuniverse.com/en/bookstore/bookdetails/809142-the-virtue-of-virtues

The Virtue of Virtues ~ Second Printing


https://www.iuniverse.com/en/bookstore/bookdetails/809142-the-virtue-of-virtues

When sex education classes were introduced into public school systems across the United States of America back in the 1990s, I had parents asking me to write a book to help parents and their sixth grade children, so they could have a more value-based teaching to present to their young ones. I also had a sixth grader coming through the school at that time, and other of my children to follow. I agreed and authored The Virtue of Virtues, which I taught at Sacred Heart of Jesus Parish in Hopedale, Massachusetts, in the Diocese of Worcester.

Some of the sex education textbooks I’d seen in public schools asked the sixth grade children when was the last time they had sex, and promoted products on the best condoms and gels to use for their own protection. While using the best condoms and the best gels might be beneficial to preventing them from getting certain diseases, the premise that all the sixth graders were having sex was inaccurate.

Schools across the country had Just Say No Programs to help students combat the drug and alcohol epidemic sweeping through schools of all kinds of socio-economic status. But when it came to underage kids being sexually active, there were no protections put in place for those children who did not want to have sex. Teaching about condoms, gels and abortions as the means to prevent unwanted pregnancies was apparently the way to go.

What about the sexually abused student? Would condoms, gels and abortions be the remedy for them if they got pregnant?

What about the 12-year-old girl or boy who did not want to have sex with another student, teacher, or other adult? Would condoms, gels and abortions be the remedy for these students as well?

Of course not.

I attended the next school council meeting in order to present parent concerns over these issues. However, peer pressure does not only stop with children in school. It became apparent that sex education classes were here to stay. What the school council did decide to do was to go along with the newly created Massachusetts Education Reform Act of 1993. The Town of Hopedale voted me in as one of the 2 parents in the town. On that civic board, I was voted in as co-chairperson along with the elementary school principal.

At the first board meeting, I suggested that part of the education reform ought to include a course on ethics to go along with the sex education program. In that way, children without a voice would be able to use the program (which was yet to be written) to better be able to stand up for themselves and not be pushed into going along with the crowd if they did not want to go along with them. The free will of the children was being usurped.

“We need to have a course on ethics to go along with the sex education program,” I said to the board.

“But whose ethics would we teach?” was the quick comeback from the school principal.

I realized at that moment that this public school would not allow certain ethics or particular kinds of morality to be taught in the public schools. They did teach not to steal other children’s lunch money, not to fight on the playground, and not to disrespect the teacher, but somehow teaching about the morality of protecting their own person as being private to each student was beyond the comprehension.

That’s when I knew had to write The Virtue of Virtues. It is a sixth-grade, virtue-based morality curriculum designed to be incorporated into existing CCD parish programs. The seven lessons may be taught once each month during the CCD year or in a seven-week block from October to December at the start of the CCD year. Both methods have proven to be successful.

Parents can also use this organized approach to teach virtues to their children, since The Virtue of Virtues may be taught one hour each night for one week, once a week for seven weeks, or once a month for seven months, as the parish programs are taught. Parents have the opportunity to teach their children individually or in a comfortable setting with other parents and children.

My job since 1977 to that point was writing for a newspaper, The Milford Daily News (under the name Linda Kearsley), as a correspondent and feature story writer for the neighboring Town of Mendon. I decided to answer the six questions every reporter needs to ask for a complete story: What, Why, How, When, Who and Where.

The What section of each chapter refers to a current day fiction story, which deals with the lesson theme, and is followed by the Why section that asks questions. How is a written activity. When opens the scriptures for the students, while Who illustrates the message is meant for them. Each lesson concludes with Where calling students to act out their faith here and now.

This book is written with much love for our youth. Each of the seven lessons leads children to seek out God, who loves them, and to live out the virtues, as a way of returning their love for God.

The seven chapters are:

1. Theological Virtues
A. Faith
B. Hope
C. Love

2. Cardinal Virtues
A. Prudence
B. Justice
C. Fortitude
D. Temperance

3. Fruits Of The Holy Spirit
A. Charity (Love)
B. Joy
C. Peace
D. Patience
E. Kindness
F. Goodness
G. Endurance
H. Mildness
I. Faith
J. Modesty
K. Restraint
L. Chastity

4. Seven Capital Sins
A. Pride
B. Covetousness
C. Lust
D. Anger
E. Gluttony
F. Envy
G. Sloth

5. The Opposite Virtues
A. Humility
B. Generosity
C. Chastity
D. Meekness
E. Temperance
F. Brotherly Love
G. Diligence

6. Friendship
A. Mutual Respect
B. Sincerity
C. Loyalty
D. Faithfulness
E. Honesty
F. Purity
G. Self-esteem

7. Decision Making
A. Free Will
B. Coercion
C. Responsibility
D. Exploitation
E. Peer Pressure
F. Character

Teacher’s Objectives are explained in the Appendix.

If there ever was a time when moral courage was on trial, it is today. We can do much to foster virtues in our youth, and in the process, strengthen these same virtues within ourselves. Virtues are the first stepping stones leading to mature character development.

Let us not shy away from teaching virtues to our children. Not one of us is perfect. We begin, or begin again, right where we are. Let us bloom where we are planted, in the garden of our homes, families, neighborhoods and parishes. This is a positive step we can take to instill wholesome goodness in a world in want and need of virtues.

God Bless

https://www.iuniverse.com/en/bookstore/bookdetails/809142-the-virtue-of-virtues

Balancing Peace and Happiness in Daily Life ~ Successfully Beating Depression


Balancing peace and happiness amid the hectic pace of every day life can be quite challenging. Some of us are naturally happy and peaceful, yet not all of us are wired that way. We can all get in dysfunctional ruts. What practices can we include in our days to make them seem brighter and calmer in the midst of winter doldrums and/or days of depression?

The act of balancing requires focusing our attention on a desire to be balanced. How many times do we tell ourselves that we want balance, peace and happiness in our daily lives, but soon settle for our comfortable habits that pay no attention to these desires?

We might even act out and do the opposite, engaging in self-sabotaging behaviors just to prove to ourselves that we are in charge of ourselves, when the total opposite may be true. Without conscious effort it is easy to stay in a negative or depressing loop.

We may not realize it, but that is a choice we are actively making. Focusing our mental energy on the goal of balancing our life is the surprising answer to bringing peace and happiness to our life. No matter how long we might have struggled with this problem in the past, it is possible to fix this. Know that it is not impossible.

It is important to pay attention to our energy, especially to how we energize our thoughts. Whatever we think about, we bring about. If we do not like how we are feeling, it is vital we change how we are thinking. As a matter of fact, if we refuse to change how we are thinking, there is absolutely nothing anyone else can say or do that will change how we feel. Only we can do that. Yes, it is possible to do that.

We are not the victims of our thoughts. Thoughts do not think us. We think our thoughts. We have the ability to change our thoughts at any given moment. This particular point usually infuriates us the first time we hear it. However, this is a true statement and is encouraging for us to acknowledge this.

If we want to improve in balancing our lives with peace and happiness, we can ask ourselves these questions:

Do I weigh myself down with a victim consciousness, or martyr complex?

How is my self-esteem?

What messages do I constantly tell myself?

Do I find I need to explain myself to others?

Do I feel the need to justify my actions?

Do I believe in myself?

Am I a control freak?

Do I have a passive/aggressive personality, trying to solve other life issues outside of myself by aggressively controlling the inside of myself through my diet, exercise or any other means of not addressing the issue head on?

Do I allow others to speak to me in disrespectful ways?

Do I allow others to treat me in disrespectful ways?

Am I honest with myself?

How is my health?

How is my diet?

How is my weight?

How is my attitude?

How is my mental health?

How is my emotional health?

How is my spiritual health?

Do I approach life as a daily struggle, concentrating on my work load and to-do-lists, which are outside of me, rather than working on my own character development inside of my heart, mind and soul?

Do I have addictions to food, alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex or any other addiction?

Do I live my life as an imaginary or real fight against the ideologies of others?

Do I make time for exercise in my daily life to the level that is appropriate for me, either gentle stretches, walking, going to the gym, Yoga or other forms of exercise?

Do I take time to pray?

Do I take time to meditate?

Do I contemplate?

Do I really listen?

Do I listen with an answer running, which is not really listening at all?

Do I read or listen to audio books to learn or be inspired?

Do I give myself permission to change my mind when new information presents itself?

Can I admit when I am wrong?

Do I forgive* myself when I am in the wrong?

Do I forgive* others when they wrong me?

*A quick note regarding forgiveness here is, holding on to grudges and non-forgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

The winter months are the perfect time for personal reflection on what can truly bring us peace and happiness, both of which bring balance to our days as a positive side benefit.

Namaste

Sex ~ Paying For Sex ~ Bartering Sex For Payment ~ Human Trafficking ~ Men, Women, And Children Are Not Bargaining Chips


jars of human_traffickingPaying for sex,  bartering sex for payment, and human trafficking on a larger scale is beneath the human dignity for which Godpie of human-trafficking-statistics created us.

In every culture, in every country, regardless of race, color, creed, and gender; reducing men, women and children to a means of making other people money, or paying debts, or payment for food or material goods, or even as means of payment for sex for human pleasure, is a misunderstanding of the full potential of every human being. There is a reason every person is born on this earth. It is not for other people’s financial gain, power, nor the misuse of sex.

Each and every person has the God-given right to the privacy of their own body, and to live their own life, without threat, harm, manipulation, bribery, or any other means of usurping their own personal power.

Map of trafficking of females globally.
Map of trafficking of females globally.

human trafficking 2People do not own people. People are not for sale, not even for five minutes. Any and all practices of buying and selling people in any form goes against the Almighty Creator God himself.Polaris-Project-Human-Trafficking-Statistics[1]

Human trafficking statistics by country.
Human trafficking statistics by country.

Some cultures practice various forms of caste systems, in order to keep certain people down, while elevating others. However, this practice goes against the God-given human dignity of all people, in every country, in every situation and in every circumstance. We even see financial forms of caste systems in all countries. How does your country take care of its poor?

Sometimes people like to say one thing, but do another. In some shady practices, someone might say they want to go and get a massage. Therapeutic massage is extremely beneficial for healing stress, and for the recovery of sore muscles. But in less than reputable parlors, “happy endings,” those sexual favors that do come with a price, and take place worldwide. What is the problem?

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Human dignity that each and every human being is born with, which comes directly from God. No other human being cannot honorably be taken away by any other human being, without being in direct violation of the Creator himself. Some may attempt to justify their actions by erroneously thinking that it is a “win-win” for all involved, someone gets paid for a service, and someone gets that service. However, people are not things to be used as bargaining chips, nor to be bought and sold. The conscience knows. Greed and selfishness will be answerable to Almighty God at the end of all our lives.

Please join me in praying for people caught in these less than human roles, that they might be helped and regain their dignity as God intended for them to have; and pray for everyone to stop abusing children, women and men, and to put an end to these abusive crimes against humanity.

God Bless Everyone Everywhere

What Is Inscribed On The Statue of Liberty?


“Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free…” This is an excerpt fromJimmy Carter American poet Emma Lazarus’ sonnet “The New Colossus.” It was engraved on a bronze plaque and mounted inside the lower level of the pedestal of the Statue of Liberty in 1903. It was and is intended to welcome immigrants to the United States of America.

Who are the immigrants of today? Do they arrive tired, poor, and huddling in a mass of humanity, with hopes and dreams of a safer, better future? Did our own grandparents and their grandparents generations before us arrive in this way? Might our own ancestors have traveled across dangerous oceans, deplorable and inhuman conditions, hungry and spent from the land they left?

My ancestors traveled down from Canada. Yes, this is one border of the United States. Just last month, amid moose, fox and deer, I drove to the Canadian border. I was not met with soldiers, nor vigilantes with guns, threatening my life. I was not in fear of losing my life coming or going. My family tree continues across the Atlantic Ocean, to the south of France. It most likely goes further, but it is where I presently stopped searching.

My husband’s family roots also come from across the Atlantic Ocean, to Ireland, once struck with a potato famine and war. Immigrants want better living conditions, and more humane treatment.

My family is not alone. Unless you are a native born American Indian, and might I add Spanish or Mexican back in the days of and prior to the Louisiana Purchase, everyone one of us are immigrants, or descendants of immigrants.

Why do modern day “Americans” feel the need to close the borders? The greater paradox is that it seems to be the Christian right-wing, proposing to be Christian, a group that at least according to the Bible ought to taking care of the poor and hungry and destitute among us, that appear to be fueling the fire of small-mindedness.

Closed minds that also want to close borders, do not solve the problem.

There is a way to deal with crime, gun/drug/sex trafficking, and terrorism, without punishing innocent people who are seeking a better life. Criminals need to be dealt with law abiding justice. But not all criminals are immigrants, and not all immigrants are criminals. It is not a criminal act to immigrate to this country.

Contrary to the arguments given by some, immigrants will not take all our money, nor all our jobs. They are also not receiving the benefits they are often accused of receiving. But if they are working in this country (at jobs few of us would take), they ARE paying taxes that they do not reap the benefit of.

Every single one of our family ancestors who immigrated to this country did not have to go through the complicated channels that immigrants have to today. The small-minded thinking creeps in when we say things like, “My ancestors immigrated to this country, but they did it legally.” The term “legally” is really hysterical when you accurately remember just what it was that our parents, grandparents and generations before us did when they merely walked through Ellis Island. In some cases they only had to sign their name, and if they could not write, they simply had to make an “X.”

The immigration process today is being investigated by all involved. It’s about time. With all our education and technology we have in this world today, this problem is not beyond solving.

Emma Lazarus agreed.

Lazarus was born July 22, 1849. She was raised a Sephardic Jew, and displayed an early talent for poetry. She attracted the notice of Ralph Waldo Emerson with her first book, Poems and Translations (1867). After this, her poem “The New Colossus”, written in 1883, was chosen to be displayed at the Statue of Liberty.

She is not alone in recognizing the human hopes and dreams of immigrants.

Healing Emotional Blackmail ~ (FOG) ~ Fear, Obligation, Guilt And Manipulation ~ Repost


pmaWhether or not you or someone you know has a personality disorder, healing our personal fears by strengthening our Will, helps. However, some of the fears we have initiate from those around us, and sometimes, by those closest to us, as they attempt to inflict fear, obligation and guilt (FOG) in subtle, or not so subtle ways, including but not limited to emotional blackmail and manipulation. Whether our fears originate from our own minds and hearts, or whether our fears originate as a projection from others that we consciously or unconsciously agree to accept, the remedy is still the same. Heal your Will by strengthening and using it.

FOG was first coined by Dr. Susan Forward, who wrote “Emotional Blackmail” with Donna Frazier. The book describes feelings that a person often has when in a relationship with someone who suffers from a personality disorder. These two women also authored the book, “The Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them.”

In my never ending quest to take classes to satisfy by CEU requirements to keep my license, one of the most recent courses I took was on personality disorders, and the possible solutions. As I thought, people with personality disorders rarely improve with medications. Whether people took medications or not, what improved their situation was their own drive and wish to improve. People did not improve when they chose not to, no matter how intensely those around them wanted them to. We can only heal ourselves, like drug and alcohol addiction.

Many of the postings in this blog are self help tools that benefit everyone who wishes to try them. They work 100 percent of the time. The onlyTruth time they will not work, is if someone stops doing them. In this case, focusing our attention on healing our Will, not giving in to everyone else’s ideas of what you shoud do in your life, makes our Will stronger. When your Will is strong, family, friends and everyone else, cannot pull your emotional strings as if you were a puppet dancing across life’s stage at the whims of your puppetmaster family, friends and others.

These dysfunctional habits of having or accepting fear, obligation, guilt, emotional blackmail and manipulation in our lives, often occur to us slowly. We may wonder if something is wrong with us, or why we constantly fall into these traps. It is not until we become aware we are living our life by walking on eggshells, that we say enough is enough, and strengthen our Will.

We must be in balance to be healthy. Strengthen your Will.

All personality disorders benefit from healing their Will. Even if you are a person with no personality disorders, you will benefit from strengthening your Will.

Stengthening our Will is not the same thing as turning into a bully, or bowling people over with our words or actions. If you are going to try to strengthening your Will, go easy on yourself as you start first observing yourself, then trying on new behaviors of finding your voice and asserting yourself. You will find a way that will work for you. But remember, it takes 21 days to change a habit. Stay with it and you will bloom.

Everyone is Drinking Birthcontrol Pills ~ It’s In The Water ~ We Are All Getting Estrogen


There is something in the water. No, really.

We are unconsciously changing our sex as a human race by drinking estrogen in the water, which to date, is not being filtered out of our drinking water, lakes, streams, ponds and rivers, in every country where birth control pills exist. Changes in fish, frogs, alligators and polar bears have been noted in studies too.
We are unconsciously changing our sex as a human race by drinking estrogen in the water, which to date, is not being filtered out of our drinking water, lakes, streams, ponds and rivers, in every country where birth control pills exist. Changes in fish, frogs, alligators and polar bears have been noted in studies too.

In 2004, Charles Clover, Environmental Editor of The Telegraph in the UK, published an article explaining that water companies in the UK had been asked to examine ways of removing traces of the female contraceptive pill from sewage effluent after the widespread evidence had proven “the pill” was causing sex changes in fish – turning male fish into female fish.
A study involving 1,500 fish in 42 rivers in England found that more than 33 percent of the male fish had female characteristics.
An environments agency had reported “Male fish with advanced changes in their sexual organs are unable to reproduce,” and that the report said, “Was a potentially serious implication for fish populations.”
How did this happen?
In the mid 1960s “the Pill” became a household word since so many women opted to use it as their both control. The hormones in that pill do not break down in the body; neither does it break down in sewage treatment plants. Therefore, female hormones were since then flowing into the rivers and lakes of the UK, and the drinking water.
The study said “the latest stage of a 20 year study showed the feminizing effects of fish were directly related to their exposure to effluent in which the Pill was 1,000 time more powerful than natural oestrogens.”
BBC also reported that year that James Owens of the National Geographic noted, “The same cause.
The scientists who had just finished a seven year study “warn that he gender-bending effects of certain man-made substances…threaten polar bears, alligators, frogs, mollusks and other wildlife. The report stopped short of naming humans as a species that has been affected.
In 2008 scientists in Canada “found the miniscule amounts of estrogen …could decimate wild fish populations living downstream.”
The research led by Dr. Karen Kidd, an NSERC-funded biology professor “confirms that synthetic estrogen used in birth control pills “wreak havoc.” And that male fish exposed to (it) become feminized, producing egg protein normally synthesized by female fish, only.

But that was England.
In the US, in 2009, CBS broadcast that “Something strange is happening to the fish in America’s rivers and lakes. Something “seems to be disrupting the hormones, blurring the lines between male and female (fish).”
Turns out that the country where more “Pills” are ingested than any other country in the world is experiencing the same problem.
And all have found that the synthesized hormones in “the Pill” have been passing through millions and millions of women in the country, through the ineffectual sewage treatment plants and have been flowing like , well, water into the streams, rivers, lake, and reservoirs of this country.
That is our drinking water, and if according to the seven year study in the UK animals as large as alligators and polar bears can be affected by it, why is it that no one has said the obvious?
Have you noticed that young people are seldom seen without a bottle of water close at hand? Have you noticed we have been told to drink more water? No I don’t think it is a plot. I think it is just something we should look into with a little more fervor.
Have you noticed more effeminate males in our country than there were in the past? Does that number seem to be growing?

Considering all this, being gay is genetic and unavoidable for many, but I don’t think it is right to cause people to be gay, by indoctrination or by chemicals in the water or both. Since it takes both male and female to propagate the species, I think this might be something we should be more interested in than say, whether or not people can gate across our borders.

This post is taken from the blog of John Hourihan.

Sweden’s Prostitution Solution: Why Hasn’t Anyone Tried This Before?


Esnoticia!co has published an innovative solution to the sex trafficking of women and children that has met with success in Sweden. The twist is that female prostitutes are treated as victims, and the male purchasers of women are the ones who get arrested.
In a centuries deep sea of clichés despairing that ‘prostitution will always be with us’, one country’s success stands out as a solitary beacon lighting the way. In just five years Sweden has dramatically reduced the number of its women in prostitution. In the capital city of Stockholm the number of women in street prostitution has been reduced by two thirds, and the number of johns has been reduced by 80%. There are other major Swedish cities where street prostitution has all but disappeared. Gone too, for the most part, are the renowned Swedish brothels and massage parlors which proliferated during the last three decades of the twentieth century when prostitution in Sweden was legal.
Sweden's Prostitution Solution:  Why Hasn't Anyone Tried  This Before?

In addition, the number of foreign women now being trafficked into Sweden for sex is nil. The Swedish government estimates that in the last few years only 200 to 400 women and girls have been annually sex trafficked into Sweden, a figure that’s negligible compared to the 15,000 to 17,000 females yearly sex trafficked into neighboring Finland. No other country, nor any other social experiment, has come anywhere near Sweden’s promising results.

By what complex formula has Sweden managed this feat? Amazingly, Sweden’s strategy isn’t complex at all. It’s tenets, in fact, seem so simple and so firmly anchored in common sense as to immediately spark the question, “Why hasn’t anyone tried this before?”

Sweden’s Groundbreaking 1999 Legislation

In 1999, after years of research and study, Sweden passed legislation that a) criminalizes the buying of sex, and b) decriminalizes the selling of sex. The novel rationale behind this legislation is clearly stated in the government’s literature on the law:

“In Sweden prostitution is regarded as an aspect of male violence against women and children. It is officially acknowledged as a form of exploitation of women and children and constitutes a significant social problem… gender equality will remain unattainable so long as men buy, sell and exploit women and children by prostituting them.”

In addition to the two pronged legal strategy, a third and essential element of Sweden’s prostitution legislation provides for ample and comprehensive social service funds aimed at helping any prostitute who wants to get out, and additional funds to educate the public. As such, Sweden’s unique strategy treats prostitution as a form of violence against women in which the men who exploit by buying sex are criminalized, the mostly female prostitutes are treated as victims who need help, and the public is educated in order to counteract the historical male bias that has long stultified thinking on prostitution. To securely anchor their view in firm legal ground, Sweden’s prostitution legislation was passed as part and parcel of the country’s 1999 omnibus violence against women legislation.

An Early Obstacle in the Path

Interestingly, despite the country’s extensive planning prior to passing the legislation, the first couple years into this novel project nothing much happened at all. Police made very few arrests of johns and prostitution in Sweden, which had previously been legalized, went on pretty much as it had gone on before. Naysayers the world over responded to the much publicized failure with raucous heckling, “See? Prostitution always has been, and it always will be.”

But eminently secure in the thinking behind their plan, the Swedes paid no heed. They quickly identified, then solved the problem. The hang-up, the place where their best efforts had snagged, was that law enforcement wasn’t doing it’s part. The police themselves, it was determined, needed in-depth training and orientation to what the Swedish public and legislature already understood profoundly. Prostitution is a form of male violence against women. The exploiter/buyers need to be punished, and the victim/prostitutes need to be helped. The Swedish government put up extensive funds and the country’s police and prosecutors, from the top ranks down to the officer on the beat, were given intensive training and a clear message that the country meant business. It was then that the country quickly began to see the unequaled results.

Today, not only do the Swedish people continue to overwhelming support their country’s approach to prostitution (80% of people in favor according to national opinion polls), but the country’s police and prosecutors have also come around to be among the legislation’s staunchest supporters. Sweden’s law enforcement has found that the prostitution legislation benefits them in dealing with all sex crimes, particularly in enabling them to virtually wipe out the organized crime element that plagues other countries where prostitution has been legalized or regulated.

The Failure of Legalization and/or Regulation Strategies

This Swedish experiment is the single, solitary example in a significant sized population of a prostitution policy that works. In 2003, the Scottish government in looking to revamp its own approach to prostitution enlisted the University of London to do a comprehensive analysis of outcomes of prostitution policies in other countries. In addition to reviewing Sweden’s program, the researchers chose Australia, Ireland, and the Netherlands to represent various strategies of legalizing and/or regulating prostitution. The researchers did not review the situation where prostitution is criminalized across the board as it is in the US. The outcome of that approach is already well known. The failures and futility of the revolving door of arresting and rearresting prostitutes is all too familiar the world over.

But the outcomes, as revealed in the Univ. of London study, in the states under review that had legalized or regulated prostitution were found to be just as discouraging or even more discouraging than the traditional all round criminalization. In each case the results were dramatic in the negative.

Legalization and/or regulation of prostitution, according to the study, led to:

A dramatic increase in all facets of the sex industry,
A dramatic increase in the involvement of organized crime in the sex industry,
A dramatic increase in child prostitution,
An explosion in the number of foreign women and girls trafficked into the region, and
Indications of an increase in violence against women.
In the state of Victoria, Australia, where a system of legalized, regulated brothels was established, there was such an explosion in the number of brothels that it immediately overwhelmed the system’s ability to regulate them, and just as quickly these brothels became a mire of organized crime, corruption, and related crimes. In addition, surveys of the prostitutes working under systems of legalization and regulation find that the prostitutes themselves continue to feel coerced, forced, and unsafe in the business.

A survey of legal prostitutes under the showcase Netherlands legalization policy finds that 79% say they want to get out of the sex business. And though each of the legalization/regulation programs promised help for prostitutes who want to leave prostitution, that help never materialized to any meaningful degree. In contrast, in Sweden the government followed through with ample social services funds to help those prostitutes who wanted to get out. 60% of the prostitutes in Sweden took advantage of the well funded programs and succeeded in exiting prostitution.*

* The full Scottish government report on prostitution policies can be seen at http://www.scottish.parliament.uk
So Why Hasn’t Anyone Tried This Before?

Why, then, with Sweden’s success so clearly lighting the way, aren’t others quickly adopting the plan? Well, some are. Both Finland and Norway are on the verge of making the move. And if Scotland takes the advise of its own study, it will go in that direction too. But, the answer to the question of why other countries aren’t jumping to adopt Sweden’s plan is probably the same as the answer to the question of why governments haven’t tried Sweden’s solution before.

In order to see prostitutes as victims of male coercion and violence it requires that a government first switch from seeing prostitution from the male point of view to the female point of view. And most, if not virtually all, countries of the world still see prostitution and every other issue from a predominantly male point of view.

Sweden, in contrast, has led the way in promoting equality for women for a very long time. In 1965, for example, Sweden criminalized rape in marriage. Even by the 1980’s there were states in the United States that still hadn’t made that fundamental recognition of women’s rights to control her own body. The Swedish government also stands out in having the highest proportion of women at all levels of government. In 1999, when Sweden passed its groundbreaking prostitution legislation, the Swedish Parliament was composed of nearly 50% women.

Sweden’s prostitution policy was first designed and lobbied for by Sweden’s organization of women’s shelters and was then fostered and fought for by a bipartisan effort of Sweden’s uniquely powerful and numerous female parliamentarians. Nor has Sweden stopped there. In 2002, Sweden passed additional legislation bolstering the original prostitution legislation. The 2002 Act Prohibiting Human Trafficking for the Purpose of Sexual Exploitation closed some of the loopholes in the earlier legislation and further strengthened the government’s ability to go after the network of persons that surround and support prostitution, such as the recruiters, the transporters, and the hosts.

And Why Can’t We Copy Sweden’s Success Here?

While it’s probably true that we and other countries are still much more steeped in patriarchal darkness than Sweden, there’s no reason we can’t push now for the policy changes that Sweden has made. The beauty of it is that once the ground has been broken and the proof of success has been established, it should be ever much easier to convince others to go down that path.

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Human Rights And Neutrality Worldwide


Let us take a deeper look at human rights in every country in Africa, Russia, the Far East, the Middle East, the Near East, North America, Central America, South America, Europe, and every island and continent everywhere human beings live on the face of the earth.

Every human being in every country is born as a free human being by virtue of his or her birth, prior to enslavement of body, mind and/or spirit. People do not own people. Enslavement of any kind is beneath human dignity.

 

There is a way to have relationships with other countries in this world that do not involve conflict and war. This way is based on neutrality. But this way of neutrality and non-competition, is based on peaceful and loving living. No man has the human right lord it over any other man, woman or child in any country.

The placebo of a solution does not mean having a manmade war as if you, me, or whoever else, is generating Armageddon by our very own selves. This does not mean that the mightiest among us wins. Might is not right. Contrary to popular belief, it is not the richest among us who wins either, despite what it looks like now.

You and I have a right to our thoughts, opinions, choices and actions.

Women have rights to all of human life.

Women “own” themselves.

No real man can ever “own” any woman.

Abuse is not an option for women.

All women of the world need to know this.

Women in a relationship of any kind sometimes think they must endure abuse because they are in love with the person who is abusing them; or they understand the triggers in the abuser that seem to cause the abuse; or wrongly think they are somehow the problem; when the real problem is that the abusing partner.

Women in an abusive relationship need to get out of the relationship.

Class warfare and all caste systems are manmade.

Women do not need someone else’s permission to be themselves.

This post is directed towards women’s rights, but the same principles apply to children’s rights, and the rights of men. People do not own people. Every human being has the right to be safe from physical and mental abuse. Every human being has a right to freedom of thoughts, words and actions without being dominated and/or manipulated by others.

Sex ~ Paying For Sex ~ Bartering Sex For Payment ~ Human Trafficking ~ Men,Women And Children Are Not Barganing Chips


jars-of-human_traffickingPaying for sex,  bartering sex for payment, and human trafficking on a larger scale is beneath the human dignity that Godpie of human-trafficking-statistics created us for. In every culture, in every country, regardless of race, color, creed, and gender; reducing men, women and children to a means of making other people money, or paying debts, or payment for food or material goods, or even as means of payment for sex for human pleasure, is a misunderstanding of the full potential and dharma of every human being. There is a reason every person is born on this earth. It is not for other people’s financial gain, or the misuse of sex.

Each and every person has the God-given right to the privacy of their own body, and to live their own life, without threat, harm, manipulation, bribery, or any other means of usurping their own personal power.

Map of trafficking of females globally.
Map of trafficking of females globally.

human trafficking 2People do not own people. People are not for sale, not even for five minutes. Any and all practices of buying and selling people in any form goes against the Creator God himself.Polaris-Project-Human-Trafficking-Statistics[1]

Human trafficking statistics by country.
Human trafficking statistics by country.

Some cultures practice various forms of caste systems, in order to keep certain people down, while elevating others. However, this practice goes against the God-given human dignity of all people, in every country, in every situation and circumstance. We even see financial forms of caste systems in all countries. How does your country take care of its poor?

Sometimes people like to say one thing, but do another. In some shady practices, someone might say they want to go and get a massage. Therapeutic massage is extremely beneficial for healing stress, and for the recovery of sore muscles. But in less than reputable parlors, “happy endings,” those sexual favors that do come with a price, take place worldwide. What is the problem?

10facts[1]

Human dignity that each and every human being is born with, which comes directly from God, and no other human being, cannot honorably be taken away by any other human being, without being in direct violation of the Creator himself. Some may attempt to justify their actions by erroneously thinking that it is a “win-win” for all involved, someone gets paid for a service, and someone gets that service. However, people are not things to be used, nor to be bought and sold. The conscience knows.

Please join me in praying for people caught in these less than human roles, that they might be helped and regain their dignity as God intended for them to have.

Real Men Do Not Buy Women ~ They Do Not Steal Them Either


“I abducted your girls, I will sell them.” This is part of a statement by the leader of Boko Haram, claiming responsibility for the mass10295736_516237588486669_3223586064645309200_n kidnapping of 276 schoolgirls, who were mostly between 16 and 18 years old. Over 200 girls were rounded up at gunpoint and kidnapped from their school in the town of Chibok, Nigeria April 14, 2014. They had just finished their final school exams. Boko Haram’s ideology opposes both so-called western education, and particularly women’s education. Some of the luckier girls escaped as the terrorists attacked village after village in a blaze of gunfire. We cannot accept a world where girls are in danger for going to school. What if these were your daughters?

jars-of-human_traffickingOn the same day as the kidnappings, a massive bombing by Boko Haram insurgents killed more than 75 commuters hundreds of miles south on the outskirts of the capital.

 

Girls do not belong to any human being.

Women do not belong to men.

Real men do not buy girls and women.

Real men do not steal girls and women.

Every girl deserves an education without sexual and physical abuse.

Every woman deserves an education without sexual and physical abuse.

Girls are not property.

Women are not property.

Men are not property.

Human trafficking is the third largest illegal trafficking racket after drugs and arms trafficking.

What some girls and women have to endure to get that education is unthinkable.A father weeps as he joins other parents of the kidnapped schoolgirls in Chibok.

Being sold is one of the most grotesque examples of human trafficking.

“We must do everything to ensure that the abducted children are retrieved and rehabilitated and returned to their parents, and the military assuredNigeriamap us that they are working on it,” said Kayode Fayemi, of the southern, Christian-majority Ekiti state.

Every woman in the world who can should speak up now in solidarity.

Human Slavery Still Exists ~ Paying For Sex ~ Bartering Sex For Payment ~ Human Trafficking ~ Third Largest Crime In The World ~ Behind Drugs And Arms Trafficking ~ Men,Women And Children Are Not Barganing Chips


jars of human_trafficking

Paying for sex, bartering sex for payment, and human trafficking on a larger scale is beneath the human dignity that Godpie of human-trafficking-statistics created us for. In every culture, in every country, regardless of race, color, creed, and gender; reducing men, women and children to a means of making other people money, or paying debts, or payment for food or material goods, or even as means of payment for sex for human pleasure, is a misunderstanding of the full potential and dharma of every human being. There is a reason every person is born on this earth. It is not for other people’s financial gain, or the misuse of sex.

Each and every person has the God-given right to the privacy of their own body, and to live their own life, without threat, harm, manipulation, bribery, or any other means of usurping their own personal power.

Map of trafficking of females globally.
Map of trafficking of females globally.

human trafficking 2People do not own people. People are not for sale, not even for five minutes. Any and all practices of buying and selling people in any form goes against the Creator God himself.Polaris-Project-Human-Trafficking-Statistics[1]

Human trafficking statistics by country.
Human trafficking statistics by country.

Some cultures practice various forms of caste systems, in order to keep certain people down, while elevating others. However, this practice goes against the God-given human dignity of all people, in every country, in every situation and circumstance. We even see financial forms of caste systems in all countries. How does your country take care of its poor?

Sometimes people like to say one thing, but do another. In some shady practices, someone might say they want to go and get a massage. Therapeutic massage is extremely beneficial for healing stress, and for the recovery of sore muscles. But in less than reputable parlors, “happy endings,” those sexual favors that do come with a price, take place worldwide. What is the problem?

10facts[1]

Human dignity that each and every human being is born with, which comes directly from God, and no other human being, cannot honorably be taken away by any other human being, without being in direct violation of the Creator himself. Some may attempt to justify their actions by erroneously thinking that it is a “win-win” for all involved, someone gets paid for a service, and someone gets that service. However, people are not things to be used, nor to be bought and sold. The conscience knows.

Please join me in praying for people caught in these less than human roles, that they might be helped and regain their dignity as God intended for them to have.

Heal Fear, Obligation, Guilt (FOG), Emotional Blackmail and Manipulation by Healing Your Will ~ Repost


pmaWhether or not you or someone you know has a personality disorder, healing our personal fears by strengthening our Will, helps. However, some of the fears we have initiate from those around us, and sometimes, by those closest to us, as they attempt to inflict fear, obligation and guilt (FOG) in subtle, or not so subtle ways, including but not limited to emotional blackmail and manipulation. Whether our fears originate from our own minds and hearts, or whether our fears originate as a projection from others that we consciously or unconsciously agree to accept, the remedy is still the same. Heal the God-given gift of your Will by strengthening and using it as the good Lord intended.

FOG was first coined by Dr. Susan Forward, who wrote “Emotional Blackmail” with Donna Frazier. The book describes feelings that a person often has when in a relationship with someone who suffers from a personality disorder. These two women also authored the book, “The Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them.”

In my never ending quest to take classes to satisfy by CEU requirements to keep my license, one of the most recent courses I took was on personality disorders, and the possible solutions. As I thought, people with personality disorders rarely improve with medications. Whether people took medications or not, what improved their situation was their own drive and wish to improve. People did not improve when they chose not to, no matter how intensely those around them wanted them to. We can only heal ourselves, like drug and alcohol addiction.

Many of the postings in this blog are self help tools that benefit everyone who wishes to try them. They work 100 percent of the time. The onlyTruth time they will not work, is if someone stops doing them. In this case, focusing our attention on healing our Will, not giving in to everyone else’s ideas of what you shoud do in your life, makes our Will stronger. When your Will is strong, family, friends and everyone else, cannot pull your emotional strings as if you were a puppet dancing across life’s stage at the whims of your puppetmaster family, friends and others.

These dysfunctional habits of having or accepting fear, obligation, guilt, emotional blackmail and manipulation in our lives, often occur to us slowly. We may wonder if something is wrong with us, or why we constantly fall into these traps. It is not until we become aware we are living our life by walking on eggshells, that we say enough is enough, and strengthen our Will.

We must be in balance to be healthy. It is not against God to strengthen your Will. God gave you your Will for you to use, not abuse or deny it. Our Will is the other half of our Spirit, also God-given. Both of these imprints, our Will and our Spirit, are part of what makes us made in the image and likeness of God. To deny our Spirit is to deny God. To deny our Will is to deny God. They are the God part of us.

All personality disorders benefit from healing their Will. Even if you are a person with no personality disorders, you will benefit from strengthening your Will.

Stengthening our Will is not the same thing as turning into a bully, or bowling people over with our words or actions. If you are going to try to strengthening your Will, go easy on yourself as you start first observing yourself, then trying on new behaviors of finding your voice and asserting yourself. You will find a way that will work for you. But remember, it takes 21 days to change a habit. Stay with it and you will bloom.

Paying For Sex ~ Bartering Sex For Payment ~ Human Trafficking ~ Men,Women And Children Are Not Barganing Chips


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Paying for sex,  bartering sex for payment, and human trafficking on a larger scale is beneath the human dignity that Godpie of human-trafficking-statistics created us for. In every culture, in every country, regardless of race, color, creed, and gender; reducing men, women and children to a means of making other people money, or paying debts, or payment for food or material goods, or even as means of payment for sex for human pleasure, is a misunderstanding of the full potential and gift that every human being is. There is a reason every person is born on this earth. It is not for other people’s financial gain, or the misuse of sex.

Each and every person has the God-given right to the privacy of their own body, and to live their own life, without threat, harm, manipulation, bribery, or any other means of usurping their own personal power.

Map of trafficking of females globally.
Map of trafficking of females globally.

human trafficking 2People do not own people. People are not for sale, not even for five minutes. Any and all practices of buying and selling people in any form goes against the Creator God himself.Polaris-Project-Human-Trafficking-Statistics[1]

Human trafficking statistics by country.
Human trafficking statistics by country.

Some cultures practice various forms of caste systems, in order to keep certain people down, while elevating others. However, this practice goes against the God-given human dignity of all people, in every country, in every situation and circumstance. We even see financial forms of caste systems in all countries. How does your country take care of its poor?

Sometimes people like to say one thing, but do another. In some shady practices, someone might say they want to go and get a massage. Therapeutic massage is extremely beneficial for healing stress, and for the recovery of sore muscles. But in less than reputable parlors, “happy endings,” those sexual favors that do come with a price, take place worldwide. What is the problem?

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Human dignity that each and every human being is born with, which comes directly from God, and no other human being, cannot honorably be taken away by any other human being, without being in direct violation of the Creator himself. Some may attempt to justify their actions by erroneously thinking that it is a “win-win” for all involved, someone gets paid for a service, and someone gets that service. However, people are not things to be used, nor to be bought and sold. The conscience knows.

Kenya’s Battle To End ‘Sex For Fish’ Trade


16 February 2014 Last updated at 20:16 ET

By Mark Lowen BBC News, Lake Victoria, western Kenya

Under the scorching sun, the fishermen bargain with those queuing up to buy: mainly women, who hope to make a small profit at the local market.

Fishing boats on Lake Victoria, Kenya

The shores of Lake Victoria in western Kenya bustle with business – wooden
fishing boats competing for space, carrying in the morning catch of tilapia,
perch or catfish.

Lucy Odhiambo “Usually I sleep with one or two fishermen a week. I could get diseases but I have no other choice: I have my children to send to school. Jaboya is an evil practice.” Lucy Odhiambo

But in this deeply poor part of Kenya, the transaction between fisherman and female market seller is rarely a financial one.

The currency is sex, not money: women selling their bodies in the hope of taking back a prize catch.

The practice is known colloquially as “sex for fish” – or, in the Luo language of the area, “jaboya”.

Lucy Odhiambo, 35, prepares her latest purchase for the market, descaling the fish and slitting them open to remove their innards. A widow and mother of five, she says women here are in a bind.

“I’m forced to pay for the fish with sex because I have no other means,” she tells the BBC.

“Usually I sleep with one or two fishermen a week. I could get diseases but I have no other choice: I have my children to send to school. Jaboya is an evil practice.”

The “disease” is indeed widespread here – the HIV infection rate in this area is almost 15%, double the national average – and it is largely down to “sex for fish”.

‘No longer dependent on men’

But, slowly, the tide is turning.

Agnes Auma takes me out on the lake aboard a boat she now owns.

It is steered by fishermen she employs and when they catch the fish, she manages the sale.

Agnes Auma on her boat on Lake Victoria, Kenya

Agnes Auma owns her own boat and employs fishermen

Cyprinid caught in Lake Victoria, Kenya

She pays her staff and the boat repayments, and has some money left for herself
after selling her catch

Some of the money is paid to her staff, some is used to repay the cost of the boat – and the rest she keeps.

It is a project run by a local charity called Vired, supported by the US Peace Corps, and it is changing the lives of the women involved.

“Sex for fish is very dangerous because every day we realise that people are dying from HIV and Aids”

Dan Abuto Vired

We talk as the boat winds its way past reeds and water hyacinth, the fishermen sweating as they navigate the narrow path.

“I saw I would have died, giving up my body for fish – and I couldn’t continue,” Ms Auma says.

“This project means I no longer have to depend on men to survive. I can fend for myself. And when I repay the money for the boat, I do it with a clean conscience.”

As we reach the open lake, the net is unfurled for Ms Auma’s catch.

A few minutes later, it is brought in: kilograms of silver cyprinid – the size of whitebait – glisten in the morning sun.

And then a large lungfish is brought up, slithering on to the boat as Ms Auma keeps watch.

“I’m very happy and proud of my fishermen and I’m very happy that I’m a strong fisher lady,” she says with a smile.

To date, just 19 women are part of the project but Vired hopes it will gradually build.

“Sex for fish is very dangerous because every day we realize that people are dying from HIV and Aids,” says Dan Abuto from the charity.

“We need to ignite these women, to empower them so they can take charge of their destiny. We are very proud because it’s having a positive impact.”

‘I am ashamed’

But this is just one part of a country where “jaboya” is common.

And even here, there are plenty of fishermen still happy to accept payment in kind.

I meet one, Felix Ochieng, a 26-year-old who is married but still sleeps with three women a week in return for his fish.

He tells me sometimes a female customer will pay 500 Kenyan shillings ($6; £3.50) in cash and another 500 shillings with their body.

“I inherited this practice from my father, who used to do the same,” he says, promising he uses a condom.

I ask if he is ashamed of what he does.

“Yes I am ashamed,” he replies, staring out at the lake, “and it’s a bad thing. But there are temptations that come with women.”

Still some way to go then to eradicate a risky, long-entrenched practice.

But little by little, the numbers involved are falling and the women of Lake Victoria are understanding the dangers involved.

To end “sex for fish” for good, though, will require a change of mindset, for gender attitudes to be overturned.

And that will be far harder: a challenge to bring the purchase of fish here above board for good.

By Mark Lowen BBC News, Lake Victoria, western Kenya