Do You Own Things Or Do Things Own You? Repost

change is goodPossessions are a 2 way street. We can own possessions, and they can own us. At first this is obvious. We have carefully and often painstakingly selected the things we have. We have chosen the things in our home, including our home, and things all around us, on purpose. These things serve a purpose, even if that purpose is to make us feel good by looking at the art of it, or feel good by being in and around these things. But when do things stop serving us, and we start serving things?

This is a good question to ask ourselves from time to time; because it is by the very nature of time that things begin to own us. It is almost as if our things begin to take a life of their own on, require cleaning or maintenance, and demand replenishing. Our things can even begin vying for our affection, and can consume our every thought, if we are not conscious of it. Things need protection. The more they shine, or grow in value, not only do we want them, so do others. Then we transform from taking care of our things, to safe guarding our things, which is an entirely different matter.

When we recognize that we are serving our things, more than they are serving us, we lose focus of what is really important in our lives. Why do we have the things we have? Do we want to keep up with the Jones’, peer pressure, or for appearances’ sake? Are we hoarders?

The remedy is simple. Like most problems of life, decision is the answer. Indecision is the complication. Decide to solve this problem, unless you like being a slave to your things.

Begin. Begin anywhere. Begin throwing away everything broken, or torn. Get a dumpster. If we didn’t wear it last year we won’t wear it this year. Give away everything that does not serve us. Donate to humanitarian causes to help the poor among us. Go through your things, again and again.

When we streamline our life, then things will not own us. Our homes will not own us. Debt will not own us.

Being debt free is freedom.

Being item free is freedom.

Being free is freedom.

When we are free, we can truly reassess what is important to us, without the clouded vision of false values.


Do You Own Things Or Do They Own You?

First we buy things. We buy them because we need, want, must have our house, furniture, clothes, cars, vacations, and50-things-money-cant-buy everything else in our lives. We acquire these things, usually with much consideration, forethought, careful financial planning; or not. Even when we try not to keep buying things, we still do. Have you ever asked yourself, do I own my things, or do they own me?

Am I a compulsive spender?

What void do spending sprees fill in me?

Have I ever thought of this before?

Have others told me this is a problem?

What can I throw away?

When was the last time I cleaned out things that no longer serve me?

Have I ever considered the possibility that the accumulation of things steals peace and creates chaos?

Have I ever entertained the idea of getting a dumpster to toss out everything that is needlessly taking up space in my house, cellar, attic, yard, or closet?

Have I felt good, with a sense of feeling “lighter” after a big cleaning project?

Can I donate my clothes to a charity, friends and family, or the homeless?

How many pairs of shirts, pants, dresses, suits, and clothes do I really need?

Have I considered repairing items as opposed to buying new items each time?

Have I ever thought of checking out the thrift stores first, before purchasing brand new items?

Am I a product of peer pressure in action, caring about what others think, do and say about my prestige, status, and outward appearance in every area of my life, from the house I live in to the clothes I wear and food I eat?

How much does it matter to me to go out on weekends, eat certain foods, go out drinking with friends and having parties?

How responsible am I in taking care of the things I buy?

Do I keep things in good working order, clean them, repair them, or replace them properly?

How much time to my things take up in my life, each day?

Have I ever tried to live with less than I have?

Have I crossed the line, starting out with me owning my things, then go to the other extreme, with my things: house, car, lifestyle, hobbies, work, owning me?

Do I ever regret a purchase after I have made it?

Do I get a “high” or “rush” of endorphins when I make a purchase?

Do I over-spend when I make purchases?

Do I go into a store with a list of exactly what I want?

Do I set a limit on how much I can spend?

Do I not care about how much I spend on things?


Do I have an emotional connection to money?

Do I get my self worth based on how much money I have?

Do I get my self worth based on how much money I do not have?

Money is merely a form of energy. Things in our life are only good if they help us more than they hurt us, or rob us of peace.

Have I ever tried to live without credit cards?

Have I considered the possibility that if I have credit cards with balances that keep increasing that I am over-spending?

What would my life be like if I paid cash for everything?

Do I have a savings account?

Am I responsible with money?

What can I do to get better at living within my means?

What expenses can I cut down on, or out altogether?

Am I at peace?

What is my plan?

Enslavement Of Materialism And Capitalism Addiction And Its Cure

It is not “Russia” that Our Blessed Mother Mary speaks about to the children at Fatima, and ultimately you and I, but the athiestic enslavement of materialism and capitalism that

Rosary beads
Rosary beads help focus prayer an meditation.

boggles the mind and tangles the heart. It is easy to get caught up in it if we are not conscious of its traps. The allure of more and better things, the latest electronic gadget, iphone, ipad, clothing, housing, trips, and oh yes, shopping can fill the heart with promises that in the end, can leave us more empty than when we began filling up our cart, head or house. Peace is not to be found in the accumulation of things. This we already know. Yet in our day-to-day living, we can find ourselves substituting materialistic and consumer gain, in place of meditation, prayer and life choices of substance.            We can break free of our addictions to materialism and capitalism first by becoming aware of them, then making decision that simplify and prioritize our lives. It is important to balance our quiet side of ourselves by prayer and meditation, harmonizing our spiritual selves with our physical and mental selves, in a conscious way. Taking time out each day, 15-20 minutes, earmarked only for prayer, with the cell phone off, door closed, is the only way to carve out sacred time and sacred space.Lately, we’ve been discussing the Rosary as a prayer and meditation practice, that makes for a perfect mantra, while elevating our thoughts to the mysteries of Jesus in our lives today. In prayer, and with the Divine, there is no time or separation, so our prayers occur in same time/real time communication, no division between us and God.               For example, let’s focus our attention on the Joyful Mysteries of the Rosary. In the first decade, picture yourself seated on the stonewall near Our Blessed Mother Mary. Perhaps the both of you were just speaking before the angel Gabriel appears to her. You see this beautiful bright angel, in all his glory, telling Mary that she has been chosen to be the Jesus’ mother, and all that entails. You witness Archangel Gabriel’s arrival and departure. You are present for a very special interaction between Heaven and Earth.     In the second decade, as you continue to pray along the beads, you meditate on the visitation, when Mary is now in her third trimester carrying baby Jesus in her womb. She travels to visit her cousin Elizabeth, who is ready to deliver John and Baptist in the next three months. You help with the preparations, the meals, and join in the conversations these two women had, as they marvel over both of their prophesied children.   The third decade brings you as an active participant to the manger scene at Christmas. Perhaps you help find Mary and Joseph a comfortable place to stay where Jesus is to be born. It is no small task to find room for Jesus in your heart. You go out of your way to help bring comfort in a time of confusion at the delivery time of Jesus simultaneously at the same time of the census. Your prayers and meditation continues in the fourth decade where you are present at the Temple, hearing first hand the prophesies of Simone and Anna, when Mary and Joseph bring the baby for the Presentation in the Temple, the time when they declare the baby’s name will be Jesus. You remember that the angel Gabriel told Mary that would be the baby’s name, and you smile.The last decade prayers find you watching Jesus, at 12 years of age, discussing the Torah in the Temple, and what was meant by the scriptures, the deeper meanings of what was meant, especially how not to worship idols, and not to make idols out of our faith. You see how even materialism and capitalism can be a form of idol worship, where things take the place of God in the heart.

The Rosary comes to an end. But the age old Rosary, given to us by Our Blessed Mother Mary, is just as powerful a weapon for peace, balance and harmony in our lives yesterday, today and tomorrow.