We Are Losing Our Social Graces


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We are losing the ability to talk with one another when we are with each other. This break down in communication occurs not only with strangers we come in contact with each day, but also in closer relationships between people.

It is sad to see couples out on a date with each other these days. Instead of gazing into each others eyes, their eyes are downward toward their electronic gizmo.

There is an addiction taking place right before our eyes. Many reasons are given for there incessant “need” to be plugged in. Not all of these reasons are bad. It is not a matter of the importance that technology affords us. The point is, we are losing our social graces.

Part of the reason for people young and not so young struggling with this anti-social behavior is lack of vocal communication skills. They seem to be adept at texting, but holding single task conversations, where they are free from the plug in of any electronic device for diversion, is minimal.

Have you also noticed the lightning speed at which plugged in people now speak? A sonic jet would have to slow down to catch up to them.

Stress? What stress?

Gone are the days of getting to know the person next to you by simple conversation. There has never been more people on the planet to choose from for mates these days, yet there have never been more dating services trying to put people together.

Next time you go to the shopping mall, try smiling and saying “Hi” to the young people you walk by. Most often you get a look back which might as well be say, “You talking to me?” that is if they hear you at all, since ear phones are now plugged into all vacant ears.

Where is the silence?

Where is the time for creative imagination?

Where is the time for meditation and contemplation?

Where is the time to get to meet people and hold conversations?

Social media is no substitute for face to face communication. Not even Skype is the same, though it helps when people are miles apart. But this article is about honest to goodness, heart to heart, voice to voice, and eye to eye human conversation.

It is almost as if we need practice conversation sessions in order to get back to the old art of human interaction. What we have now is technology interaction. But no matter how many benefits technology has, it lacks heart. The programmed voices of our cars and mobile phones can never take the place of real people to people skills.

We have tried to fill the void of natural human to human communication by developing speaking to our technological gadgets, either by orders of command, or by questions. The point here is not how fast one can get a correct answer. The point is to practice and improve on our communication skills in conversations with those we know and those we don’t know.

“I fear the day that technology will surpass our human interaction. The world will have a generation of idiots,” said Albert Einstein.

On one hand, there are bad people out there who do bad things. But what we have now are a generation of people who are afraid of everything, including their own shadow. How many people on the bus, train, plane do we speak with? We could have past by hundreds of people on any given day, and literally have spoken to no one.

It can be a very lonely experience for our young people, and ourselves, to limit human conversation to short and incomplete sentences.

The art of conversation, person to person, heart to heart can help us all to be better people, and less self centered.

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Author: lindahourihan

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13 thoughts on “We Are Losing Our Social Graces”

  1. Thank you for visiting this site. I am of the generation before all of this incredible and wonderful technology. It is so captivating that I can see why it is so contagious, and beneficial. But I worry about my grandchildren, and all of human kind. I remember days of pure freedom that I do not think can ever be repeated, days if running through grassy meadows, riding horseback through woodland trails, and exploring nature so quietly you could hear your own heartbeat. There was time to daydream as a child, or even as an adult, and imagine, and meditate, and pray, without being tied so tightly to technology, and being at everyone else’s beck and call 24/7. It makes us go through life as observers more than freely living the experiences. I do not know the answer to this issue. It is not easy to solve. But I do know that never talking to people, or becoming afraid of everyone we meet on our journey through life, is not the answer. Thank you again for taking the time to read this, and for sharing your heart.

  2. Thank you for your comments. It makes me sad too, because I am of the generation before all of this incredible and wonderful technology. It is so captivating that I can see why it is so contagious, and beneficial. But I worry about my grandchildren, and all of human kind. I remember days of pure freedom that I do not think can ever be repeated, days if running through grassy meadows, riding horseback through woodland trails, and exploring nature so quietly you could hear your own heartbeat. There was time to daydream as a child, or even as an adult, and imagine, and meditate, and pray, without being tied so tightly to technology, and being at everyone else’s beck and call 24/7. It makes us go through life as observers more than freely living the experiences. I do not know the answer to this issue. It is not easy to solve. But I do know that never talking to people, or becoming afraid of everyone we meet on our journey through life, is not the answer. Thank you again for taking the time to read this, and for sharing your heart.

  3. I absolutely agree with you… It is shocking to see how addicted everyone seems to their devices. I just recently read a post of a young girl about her struggling of leaving Facebook because she worries to loose touch with her friends… My thoughts? What the hell??? But apparently it is what it is about nowadays. The exchange happens on devices instead of person to person. And that is pretty sad…

  4. Thank you for your comments Shaniqua. It makes me sad too, because I am of the generation before all of this incredible and wonderful technology. It is so captivating that I can see why it is so contagious, and beneficial. But I worry about my grandchildren, and all of human kind. I remember days of pure freedom that I do not think can ever be repeated, days if running through grassy meadows, riding horseback through woodland trails, and exploring nature so quietly you could hear your own heartbeat. There was time to daydream as a child, or even as an adult, and imagine, and meditate, and pray, without being tied so tightly to technology, and being at everyone else’s beck and call 24/7. It makes us go through life as observers more than freely living the experiences. I do not know the answer to this issue. It is not easy to solve. But I do know that never talking to people, or becoming afraid of everyone we meet on our journey through life, is not the answer. Thank you again for taking the time to read this, and for sharing your heart.

  5. Reblogged this on Inside My Head and commented:
    This is a deep, hard-hitting piece. Everything said here is extremely true and reading it makes me incredibly sad, because I wish we had better face-to-face communication in this world. I can hold my hands up and say that I am also guilty of what is written in this post. I need to change that.

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