Have you ever found yourself taking on more than you planned or want to take on? Are you stressed???
There are many things we can do in these stress filled times that are self-help antidotes. They are things we already know. But in the snap decision moment, we can find ourselves doing the exact opposite of what we want to do, like staying calm, cool and collected.
How many times have we been in the middle of a project, or a meal, and the telephone rings, or our electronic gadget alerts us that some new bit of information is coming in? What do we do? Are we in the habit of constantly jumping at everything else’s beck and call?
Are we a slave to modern technology, or are we free ranging humans?
Depending on what we have going on in our life, there are times when we absolutely have to take this call. It could be the doctor, or an urget call from our boss. There are many valid reasons we, from time to time, should drop what we are doing, and answer that call. It would be irresponsible not to.
But is this the normal routine for us every day, in every situation? Do we let everything everybody else wants to come before our peace of mind, our plan for our day, or our priorities? We need to become aware and take stock of our triggers, from time to time, because nothing stays stagnant. Things always change. It is a matter of staying in balance no matter how chaotic life gets.
Becoming aware of how we are feeling is the first step in the right direction to correcting what is off with us. Feelings are our Divinely given tools, given to us so we can assess where we are, and where we want to go. Good feelings are affirming and are a sign we are doing OK. Feelings of discordant energy are a sign that we need to make a correction somewhere to bring us back into alignment with our true purpose, goals, and get back on track.
Where is our Bliss? This is something we take it with us no matter how busy we let yourselves get. One self-help tool is to remember to take three, count them three, deep, cleansing breaths each time a challenge comes our way. Seldom is the case when we need to react so fast, as if we are running from a burning building. Yet that is exactly how we tend to dash through our lives, putting out everyone’s elses fires.
An amazing thing to remember is, just because someone throws us the ball, we don’t have to catch it. What a relief it is to remember this. Yes, we already know this, but somehow someone throwing the ball to us plays to our ego and we can find ourselves rising to the occasion when we don’t really want to. If this happens to us occasionally, then we are doing a good and noble thing. However, if this happens to us every time, then we are doing ourselves a disservice.
When and how do you start your day? Some of us wake up and immediately jump on the treadmill of life. No wonder we get so exhausted. If our plan is working for us, we should stay with it. However, this tends to be one of the best places to introduce change if we are not happy with our state of affairs.
What part of the day is your best work production, alert time? What part of the day is best for you to exercise? What part of the day for you to meditate, pray or recollect in peace and quiet? This is different for different people. There is not one best answer here. What is important is to take a moment to reassess our life. Are you a morning person, afternoon person or evening person? Does the life you are living match your most optimum work load times? What do you want to do about that?
You don’t have to catch the ball. Isn’t that awesome to remember?
If we are people pleasers, this concept may be somewhat startling. One good thing to remember is that we cannot please anyone until we please ourself. The same thing is true for flying in airplanes. You cannot save anyone else until you save yourself first, for example by putting on your air mask before you put your child’s air mask on. What is it about false pride that makes us think we have to come last in everything?
The Divine Creator does not want you to come in last for everything, have a hard time of everything, lose everything, and struggle with everything. Sometimes these things happen. But it is in becoming aware of where we are in our life, truly taking stock of where we are and where we want to go, that we can improve how we feel, and decide to change our lives for the better if we want to.
Again, we are not victims, unless we choose to be. That statement can be infuriating if you find yourself in a difficult situation you did not plan. Yes, bad things happen to us all the time. But it is in how we handle these challenges, and transform these energies that can help us. We can begin again. That is OK.